How to Turn On an Aquarius Man

Co-authored by Angel Eyedealism and Jessica Gibson

Last Updated: January 27, 2026 References

If you've attracted the attention of an Aquarius guy, you're probably wondering how to keep things exciting in the bedroom. Since Aquarius men are original, independent, and inventive, you've got to try new things to turn your guy on. We've found great ways to get your Aquarian in the mood. From flirting to foreplay to erogenous zones, we've got you covered!

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Talk about what turns him on.

Cut right to the chase by asking your Aquarius what he likes.^{[1]
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Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist

Expert Interview} He'll really really appreciate that you're trying to figure out what stimulates him. In fact, most Aquarians try to develop a friendship with someone before having a relationship, so you shouldn't find it too hard to communicate with him.^{[2]
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- You can definitely bring this up when you're talking with him in person, but texting is a fantastic way to ask about his desires since he can easily flirt back.
- For instance, you might ask, "What's something you've always wanted to try with a partner but never done before?"

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Wear turquoise lingerie.

Turquoise and blue are the colors associated with Aquarius. Your guy will be instantly aroused if you wear dreamy turquoise or blue lingerie. Choose lingerie that has blue lace for an extra-sensual element.
- Go for unusual and intricate lingerie so it really stands out for your guy.

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Spend time on foreplay.

Your Aquarius guy will appreciate assertiveness rather than gentle cuddling. He might get turned on by watching an adult film together for instance. An Aquarian's not looking for an emotional connection, so spend time getting to know what makes him feel good.^{[3]
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- For example, he may love it if you give him a sensual massage, do a striptease, or shower together.
- Keep the lights on! To get in the mood, an Aquarian wants to see everything that's happening.

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Whisper something naughty in his ear.

Say something about how aroused you are to get him in the mood. To really turn him on, say something suggestive before you two have even made it to the bedroom. Try something like, "I want to be yours," or, "I've been thinking about what I want to do with you."^{[4]
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- You can also take charge and tell him that you want him to say something. You could say something like, "Tell me that you want me right now."

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Explore his erogenous zones.

Target his calves and ankles to really drive him crazy. According to astrology, Aquarians rule these body parts, so it's no surprise that these areas are really sensitive to sexual stimulation. Spend some time planting kisses or tickling his calves and ankles.
- Up for something more adventurous? Put his ankles in handcuffs—with his permission of course.

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Offer to try a new position.

Keep things fresh in the bedroom so your guy is enthusiastic. If you feel like sex is becoming routine, suggest a new position. You might find a new favorite position or you'll at least have fun experimenting!^{[5]
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- Suggest new places to have sex, too. He might be open to having sex outdoors or on the beach for instance. Trying something new together is a great way to get him hooked.

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Bring sex toys into the bedroom.

Spice things up to keep him hooked. Since Aquarians love technology, shop for a sexy gadget that can help spice things up. If he's got sex toys that he prefers, ask him to bring them over so you can explore them together.^{[6]
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- For a fun couples activity, shop for toys together. You can talk about what you want to try in the bedroom and build anticipation.

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Have fun with role-playing.

Act out your fantasies in the bedroom to keep things exciting. Sex will be anything but routine if you break out costumes and props! Talk with your guy about what turns him on and come up with a sexy scenario. Then, head to the bedroom and let your imaginations run wild.
- You might say, "Can I dress up for you? Tell me what you want."
- Don't forget to discuss boundaries so you're both comfortable.

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Be mysterious.

Make him curious about what you've got planned. Blindfold your guy and let him rely on his other senses—it's a huge turn on and it will definitely prevent sex from becoming routine or boring! You could also wear something a little seductive to pique his interest.^{[7]
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- If he mentioned something he wanted to try, tell him it's his lucky day. Let him know that you're also open to trying something new.

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Be as exciting and energetic as possible.

Your goal is to constantly experiment and explore with your Aquarian. As long as you're enthusiastic with him, you'll keep your guy hooked and aroused. If you sense that he's getting a little bored, just switch things up.^{[8]
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- Don't forget to share your own desires with your Aquarius man. Aquarians are generous lovers, so he'll be eager to make you feel fulfilled.
- Be as vocal as you want—you can hum, moan, or whatever it takes to let your guy know how you're feeling.

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Skip emotional conversations.

Keep your relationship casual and fun. Aquarians are well known for being independent. He'll expect you to have your own life without needing to confide in him or make a deep, romantic connection. As long as you keep your relationship light, your guy will be along for the ride!
- This isn't to say that you can't develop a deep connection with an Aquarius man. It just means that a serious relationship takes time, so don't rush him.