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Desiree Panlilio

Teen Life Coach

Desiree Panlilio is a Teen Life Coach and the Owner of Encouraging Teens, LLC. With over three years of experience, she specializes in helping teens and young adults define roles, set goals, develop healthy academic and personal habits, grow in leadership potential, and create their life paths. Desiree holds a BSN in Nursing from The University of Victoria and an MA in Human Services Counseling with a concentration in Life Coaching from Liberty University.

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How do i talk to this guy at school?
What a great opportunity. If he is new to school and you only see him at lunch, go sit with him. Walk up, introduce yourself, and start with something like, "I see you are new to the school". Tell him your name and one thing about yourself. "Hi I am ____. I have seen you in the cafeteria, and I realize you are new to the school. Mind if I join you for lunch?" Tell him things like, "I really enjoy _____", or "What is your favorite sport? What classes do you have?" You can connect over a sport, a class, or a teacher. Creating a new friendship is always a positive, and who knows what happens next!
I don't know whether i should end my friendship or not
Friendships are tough, especially when you have been friends for so long. Have you had an honest conversation with your friend? Tell her that you do not share the same rebellious feelings. That you value your education, value the opportunity to learn. That you want to be her friend, but your values and beliefs do not allow you to be late for school, rebel against others, and not create the future of success that you want for yourself. The other part of the conversation is to ask your friend why the behavior has changed. Don't ask why once, but ask why three times. Has something changed so that your friend has changed their behavior? Friends hold each other accountable, encourage one another, and never make one go against their values or boundaries. I have written a book on Teen Friendship which would be helpful. Here is the link.
My friend is trying to get the attention of my crush and wants my crush to like her
The question you have to answer is, is she your friend? How do you define what a friend is? What do you expect from a friend? Why is she your friend? Answering those questions will help you determine if she is a good friend or bad friend. I did write a book on teen friendship, which could be great to take a look at for situations like this. You can take a look here if you're interested!
I can’t stand the kids at my school. How do I not go insane.
Those are some big words and big feelings. The other part is that it is rather vague. What are they doing that is annoying? Could you simply ask them to stop or walk away when their behavior is not reflecting your values? If these people are your friends, are they sharing the same values as you, encouraging you, and lifting you up? If not, is it time to find a new friend group?
Should I go for it?
The best place to start is a conversation. What does your crush do that is rude? Have you asked your crush if he is being rude, or are they misunderstanding each other? Every situation has two sides, and the best thing is to talk about it, openly and honestly. As for going for it with your crush, you get to decide who you want to be with or date, and your friend can voice her concerns, but the choice is up to you. Your friend should support that, but is your friend scared that you will spend more time with your new crush than with her? That may be a real concern and something you and your BFF should address. Feelings are often hard to share, and we need to listen with curiosity and want to understand the other point of view.
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