Dr. James Q. Simmons

Nurse Practitioner

James Simmons is a Nurse Practitioner.

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What should more people know before having sex for the first time?
I don't think we talk enough about the emotional impact of sex. When you're young, all you hear about is "don't get pregnant." You don't hear, "sex is extremely intimate and vulnerable." Young people need to be prepared for the emotional component of sex. Of course, everyone should have a protection plan in place (condoms, etc.). But after that, make sure you're ready for the vulnerability.

I think more people should know that the decision to have sex is important to carefully consider from an emotional perspective, as well as the aftercare. After you have sex, you'll need to communicate with your partner: "Does this mean we have to have sex every day? Does it mean that we're committed to each other?"

You may also need to discuss pain or discomfort after the first time. Sometimes it hurts and it's not fun, or it's messy and gross. Make sure you're with someone that you'd be comfortable talking that through with. Also, if anything happens that makes you feel embarrassed or ashamed, know that you're not alone. Many people struggle through their first time.

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