Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Raffi Bilek is a couples counselor and family therapist, and the Director of The Baltimore Therapy Center, LLC. With more than ten years of experience, he specializes in helping individuals, couples, and families save and improve their relationships. He enjoys training other therapists to work with couples through the most difficult situations, including infidelity, divorce, and more. Raffi holds a Bachelor's degree in Computer Science from Brown University and a Master's degree in Social Work from The Wurzweiler School of Social Work.

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Is flirting considered cheating? Give me your hot takes.
The best thing to do is just talk to them and say, “Hey, I noticed this weird thing the other day at the coffee shop. I'm wondering if something is going on?” Trying to hold on to these feelings or deciding to spy on your boyfriend to see if he’s actually going out to cheat is just not going to be the solution. Talk to him by framing this about yourself and your experience, as opposed to talking about what he did wrong. Just don’t be judgmental and it’ll be easier for him to be open for that conversation. And once the conversation starts, it’s really just about finding what you two are comfortable with as a couple. There isn’t just one definition of “cheating” so you two need to navigate what that means for you.

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