How do I ask my ex boyfriend out?
Like my ex boyfriend broke up with me ages ago I still miss him and he still loves me so first of all, do I?
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I love talking about second-chance couples! In terms of best practices, I would reach out to them and see if they're open to meeting up. If you're meeting them, I would prepare for an emotionally intense experience. It's hard, because on the one hand, you really know this person, you have history, and there are things that feel so familiar and known. But, at the same time, there's so much uncertainty. You don't know what your ex has been doing for the past number of months or years. There's a blend of mystery and familiarity that is really potent. It can create powerful feelings of attraction.
I think it's really important to go slow and be intentional if you decide to get back together, even as you feel the rush and the power of refinding your ex. If you are going to start up again, you're going to want to start from a different kind of foundation because the relationship did end for some reason, right?
You'll need to have some conversations about what you both want to do differently. How can the two of you protect the 2.0 version of your relationship from the impact of the 1.0 version of your relationship? Those are really important conversations to have. It's not about blame, guilt, shame, or regret. It's about honoring that the two of you have a history and that history deserves to be understood so that you put the wind at your backs instead of at your faces.
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I think it's really important to go slow and be intentional if you decide to get back together, even as you feel the rush and the power of refinding your ex. If you are going to start up again, you're going to want to start from a different kind of foundation because the relationship did end for some reason, right?
You'll need to have some conversations about what you both want to do differently. How can the two of you protect the 2.0 version of your relationship from the impact of the 1.0 version of your relationship? Those are really important conversations to have. It's not about blame, guilt, shame, or regret. It's about honoring that the two of you have a history and that history deserves to be understood so that you put the wind at your backs instead of at your faces.
Honestly I think you should assess the situation first. Like if you guys still talk, and if he still mentions "how it used to be" and stuff like that. But I think that you deserve to be happy, and go with your gut. GOOD LUCK!!!!
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