I need help. How would you recommend dealing with a homophobic Christian father that already knows your LGBTQ+?
He's so mean about it, and says I'm just doing it cause it's popular. I am getting panic attacks because of how he treats it. I'm a lesbian demigirl (she/they) so partial non binary. Also feel free to share your experience with homophobic parents. 🦈🏳🌈✨
Be strong my fellow gay sharkies!
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i personally deal with that too as a trans frying pan, and its honestly avoidable. try not to bring it up. and maybe if he is still being homophobic, honestly just plan a detailed explanation and yell if necessary? idk but you can do it! thats coming from someone with a mentality crisis. also, if you need me too, i will breakdance on his ceiling fan at 2:38AM and sing vocaloid songs.
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TLDR: Try to talk to your dad about it when he's relaxed and not currently being homophobic, especially towards you.
Maybe try explaining why you're a lesbian and how it's definitely not a choice or a phase. If you're also a Christian, you can try relating it to the religion, like saying how God accepts everyone for who they are, including people of different sexualities and gender identities.
Also, I'd recommend waiting until the right time to talk to your dad about this. It might take a while for him to understand your identity and experiences.
I also have homophobic parents who are Muslim, although I'm an atheist. I've not come out to them about being bisexual and am not planning to, especially since my mom is very homophobic and likes to complain about gay people she sees in the media. And I think my dad was influenced by her as he now points out people he assumes are gay on TV, like non-Korean men who wear makeup or drag queens who are interviewed during Pride Month, etc.
I hope this helps.
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Maybe try explaining why you're a lesbian and how it's definitely not a choice or a phase. If you're also a Christian, you can try relating it to the religion, like saying how God accepts everyone for who they are, including people of different sexualities and gender identities.
Also, I'd recommend waiting until the right time to talk to your dad about this. It might take a while for him to understand your identity and experiences.
I also have homophobic parents who are Muslim, although I'm an atheist. I've not come out to them about being bisexual and am not planning to, especially since my mom is very homophobic and likes to complain about gay people she sees in the media. And I think my dad was influenced by her as he now points out people he assumes are gay on TV, like non-Korean men who wear makeup or drag queens who are interviewed during Pride Month, etc.
I hope this helps.
Married straight white guy here. I can't relate to this scenario, but I do understand difficult parents who don't approve of your life choices even though it's not harming anyone. My advice is be professional and speak with certainty trying to respect your father but you must tell them how this hurts you beyond "this hurts my feelings." If your father is anything like my parents he is stubborn and conservative. So you must stand strong and make your line in the sand. You must be direct and no pussyfooting your words. But remember to be respectful. Be diplomatic in your approach but make your message strong and clear.
Currently I'm hardly talking to my parents because they want my wife and me to just forget this argument that occurred before Christmas. It hurts to know I can't view my parents the same as I did my whole life, but I feel better with myself. My brother had the same issue as me, but he completely cut all contact with them for over a year. Only opening back up because my mom flew to his house crying and begging to be a family again.
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Currently I'm hardly talking to my parents because they want my wife and me to just forget this argument that occurred before Christmas. It hurts to know I can't view my parents the same as I did my whole life, but I feel better with myself. My brother had the same issue as me, but he completely cut all contact with them for over a year. Only opening back up because my mom flew to his house crying and begging to be a family again.
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