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I love my mom, I just want to know a way to make her respect my boundaries.

Siren head
Siren head
10/20/25 4:51pm
I hate it when people touch me especially my mom. I don't know why she's really nice and It's not like I have trauma but I just don't like it. I have told her that multiple times and I say it in an assertive way but she doesn't listen to me and doesn't respect my boundaries. I love my mom, I just want to know a way to make her respect my boundaries. How do I fix this?
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Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW
Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW
Psychotherapist
11/18/25 5:09pm
It's wonderful that you are advocating for your needs. Sometimes parents need reminders too, on personal space and boundaries. I would say something like, "Hey Mom, as I'm getting older, I need more personal space and boundaries. This looks like [put in your idea of what you're looking for (i.e., less hugging in front of others, etc]. I know you want to be close to me, but my wanting space is not a reflection of me not caring about you. I just need some more space."

I am a licensed clinical social worker providing general information for educational purposes only. I am not liable for any decisions made or actions taken based on the information provided.
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Destinyluvsjustinn
Destinyluvsjustinn
11/09/25 5:28pm
okii lemme help u Beacause I understand my parents don't respect my boundaries either so how I would deal with this is if u don't likes hugs and she wants to give u a hug just say "Hey mom I don't wanna be rude but how about we do like a handshake or a high-five or maybe even a fistbump I would like those better then a hug Im just more comfortable with that" you could try that, that is the best advice I do have I hope it gets better!! 💗
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