What are the positive and negative traits of libra men?
I've gone out a couple times with a libra guy and I've heard conflicting opinions about libras so I'm curious what anyone can tell me about libra men generally and in relationships? are they cheaters or are they generally pretty loyal? do they prefer to pursue or be chased? how do you keep a libra guy interested/attract him? What are the pros and cons of dating a libra man?
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In my experience, Libras are the most devoted, engaged, honest, open, genuine, completely committed men possible. They love every last shred of you, good, bad or otherwise… they see who really are no matter what “state” you’re in, and love you because of your faults and flaws, and not not despite them. They definitely have a “standard” in mind for anybody they will consider being with, but once they decide you’ve ‘made the cut’, they accept that you’re human and not some flawless “ideal” who isn’t allowed to have your imperfect moments (ie not looking perfect, sick with a stomach bug or stuffed nose, bad hair days, flop clothes, etc). Once they know you’re CAPABLE of looking and acting “flawlessly” when needed, they get over the fact nobody is actually flawless, including you.
And I truly cannot understand anybody says they are “flaky”… in my experience, they are like rocks! I learned what “I’ve got you” meant for the first time in my life with my Libra… No matter where I was, or what I needed, DONE!!! if I sent a text and said “I need to talk to you”, the phone was ringing with an instant of hitting send… If I said “I need you“, the doorbell will be ringing before I could blink. If they heard or sensed any distress or shred of upsetment, sadness, stress, anxiety… FORGET IT!!! I couldn’t even tolerate that… and it ate him a lot if he couldn’t fix it or make it better for me. If I was in any kind of trouble…flat tire, broken leg, didn’t matter!!! Flew to my side instantly.
And there is absolutely no tolerance for anybody hurting me… At all… Under any circumstances. At times I feared for people who he even perceived as having hurt me in any way. And there was absolutely absolutely nothing he wouldn’t do for me… NOTHING.
I don’t think I ever knew what it meant to be “adored”, how I SHOULD AND DESERVE TO BE TREATED AND LOVED, OR even what being “loved” really meant until along came my Libra. I’ll never again accept anything less from anybody in life.
Maybe I lucked out! But if that’s the case, I’ve never been luckier.
PS I’m an Aquarius… Pretty true Aquarius, but not at all distant or “needing my space“… That is one part has never applied to me. My Libra never wanted to be without me…and I LOVED it
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And I truly cannot understand anybody says they are “flaky”… in my experience, they are like rocks! I learned what “I’ve got you” meant for the first time in my life with my Libra… No matter where I was, or what I needed, DONE!!! if I sent a text and said “I need to talk to you”, the phone was ringing with an instant of hitting send… If I said “I need you“, the doorbell will be ringing before I could blink. If they heard or sensed any distress or shred of upsetment, sadness, stress, anxiety… FORGET IT!!! I couldn’t even tolerate that… and it ate him a lot if he couldn’t fix it or make it better for me. If I was in any kind of trouble…flat tire, broken leg, didn’t matter!!! Flew to my side instantly.
And there is absolutely no tolerance for anybody hurting me… At all… Under any circumstances. At times I feared for people who he even perceived as having hurt me in any way. And there was absolutely absolutely nothing he wouldn’t do for me… NOTHING.
I don’t think I ever knew what it meant to be “adored”, how I SHOULD AND DESERVE TO BE TREATED AND LOVED, OR even what being “loved” really meant until along came my Libra. I’ll never again accept anything less from anybody in life.
Maybe I lucked out! But if that’s the case, I’ve never been luckier.
PS I’m an Aquarius… Pretty true Aquarius, but not at all distant or “needing my space“… That is one part has never applied to me. My Libra never wanted to be without me…and I LOVED it
Thank you so much for this comment. An Aries woman here just started to date a Libra man for the first time in my life and I already see myself falling for this man. He is so far the best of all men I have ever been with and that is so many. Thank you , this comment really uplifted my spirit. I have been craving the exact love from a man a devotion you just described
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Hello, I’m a Libra man and love you comments, was feeling down about myself until I read your story thanks for sharing it 🙏 I did have a 9 year relationship with a Aquarius woman and fell in love with her so much it was wonderful being with her, doing things together I just wanted to be with her all the time, she was very giving and talented, I truly don’t know what happened to end our relationship, but I Loved what it Was 💞, Thanks Again for Your Kind Words.
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Libras don't cheat when they are in love. From what she describes he's actually fallen. Libras cheat when they are in a relationship they did not whole heartedly want to be in. There is actually a deeper level.
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Ive never cheated in any of my relationships and it wasn't for a lack of offer or opportunity. Its a sense of morality that superseded desire. How could I do that to her? I wont. It got to the point where I made a rule that I restricted the possibility of that happening by limiting moments where I had one on one interactions with females outside of work and even at work when possible. I deleted all my social media accounts because they always start there. And I gave her my PIN to my phone. Initially, they all think im a player or something, but that quickly goes away when they see the loyalty. I say that because all of these restrictions and dedications to being loyal were imposed on me by myself.
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Hey. You posting about me again? Just say the word and I'll drop everything and be right there. I've got you ; )
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That’s amazing!!!! I am an Aquarius woman, I have heard Libra man is supposed to be one of our TOP matches.
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I just started talking to a libra man need some pointers please and I’m an Aquarius thanks in advance 😊
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Hello. I'm an Aquarius woman and I dated a Libra man for 7 years. I found him to be very indecisive and inconsistent with his emotions. He was also very dishonest. Always trying to please everybody, without actually pleasing anybody. It was exhausting and I eventually had to call it quits. He never really committed to our relationship. He always had one foot out the door. On the surface he was charming and he made me feel special but it was actually just smokescreens and mirrors. I would never date a Libra man again....
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I am Libra, Libra want more and more of you. If you intend to restrict us from our fantasy with you we will not hate you but drift from you. We will keep you for who you are and check elsewhere. In as much we will still give you time to have a rethink while we are on the search. We hate selfishness . We want to explore with you. Not with someone else, if you still feel stubborn to comply we find a way for fulfilling that desire while we let you remain who you are.
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Libra is ruled by Venus, and Libra men tend to be very attractive people, and being in a relationship is extremely important to them. However, Libras flip flop, so when a Libra man is in a relationship, he wants to be out of it and when he's out of it, all he thinks about is being in one. They're constantly trying to balance things. In a relationship with a Libra guy, you definitely want to appeal to his sense of aesthetics, you definitely want to be not rude or gross around a Libra man. He gets turned off by somebody who’s coarse, wants a woman that is refined and intellectual, because he’s an intellectual. It's an Air sign. The Air sign loves intellectuals, but it's a Venus-based sun sign. So he definitely wants a woman who is attractive, but also intelligent.
You can tell a Libra man is playing games if he becomes cold and distant, or not engaged. If he goes off by himself, then that's a really bad sign, because he's supposed to be balancing his energy with your energy. Libras find themselves through their partner. So if he becomes evasive, that means he's not interested in you. Libras are so polite, they won't necessarily come out and say they don't want to be with you, but they'll do these evasive maneuvers.
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You can tell a Libra man is playing games if he becomes cold and distant, or not engaged. If he goes off by himself, then that's a really bad sign, because he's supposed to be balancing his energy with your energy. Libras find themselves through their partner. So if he becomes evasive, that means he's not interested in you. Libras are so polite, they won't necessarily come out and say they don't want to be with you, but they'll do these evasive maneuvers.
I've been in a relationship with a Libra for over twenty years
All of what described in this article is TRUE to life. Your comment is Absolutely true.
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All of what described in this article is TRUE to life. Your comment is Absolutely true.
I have not found that true I am the least interested in relationships Focus on work
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I try not to restrict traits to gender, as we all have masculine and feminine experiences of each sign that can manifest in all charts. Everyone shines the same light in their own way, so to speak. To that point, we can highlight those differences!
Libra is an air sign; as the masculine, this can manifest in clear opinions and decision-making. Libra is heavily driven by their concept of “fairness”, as depicted in the scales that symbolize them. The sense of justice is heavily influenced by law, social expectation, and personal experience tempered toward impartiality. A Libra masculine may find it easy to see the perspectives of others involved in conflict, but also do a lot to convince and control those perspectives when operating in scarcity. In both positive and negative ways, the need for more data can delay the decision-making process, so creating an internal system of checkpoints may help keep your thought process efficient.
In the feminine capacity, Libras are supercharged, as it’s a sign ruled by Venus. Their connection and appreciation for beauty cannot be contained; these are people who know an aesthetic when they see it. Design, lavish lifestyle, and classy decor are hallmarks of a Libra feminine, though they shy away from the gaudy. The sin of tackiness carries a heavy toll for the judgment of Libra!
When it comes to dating, Libras are loyal, but it may not be in the way you are thinking. They are loyal to the concept of equity itself, meaning they may find it hard to remove themselves from toxic experiences in earlier romantic experiences. An “unhealed” Libra is likely to try and shoulder the weight of whatever their partner may not care to pick up. That said, Libras tend to learn quickly from their failed expectations, so boundary setting is a must-learn.
Once partnered, which is in itself likely a longer courting process (they do cross their t’s and dot i’s), Libras are unlikely to think about hopping off the scale as opposed to balancing it. They can handle the flexibility of roles and seek to react to their partner to maintain pace and peace.
Catching a Libra’s attention starts with style and ends decisively in substance. If you’re going to pursue a Libra, knowing your intentions with clarity will be key. Libras are experts in magnetism and attraction, knowing just how to pique the interest of others by thoughtful consideration and an uncanny ability to put themselves in others’ shoes.
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Libra is an air sign; as the masculine, this can manifest in clear opinions and decision-making. Libra is heavily driven by their concept of “fairness”, as depicted in the scales that symbolize them. The sense of justice is heavily influenced by law, social expectation, and personal experience tempered toward impartiality. A Libra masculine may find it easy to see the perspectives of others involved in conflict, but also do a lot to convince and control those perspectives when operating in scarcity. In both positive and negative ways, the need for more data can delay the decision-making process, so creating an internal system of checkpoints may help keep your thought process efficient.
In the feminine capacity, Libras are supercharged, as it’s a sign ruled by Venus. Their connection and appreciation for beauty cannot be contained; these are people who know an aesthetic when they see it. Design, lavish lifestyle, and classy decor are hallmarks of a Libra feminine, though they shy away from the gaudy. The sin of tackiness carries a heavy toll for the judgment of Libra!
When it comes to dating, Libras are loyal, but it may not be in the way you are thinking. They are loyal to the concept of equity itself, meaning they may find it hard to remove themselves from toxic experiences in earlier romantic experiences. An “unhealed” Libra is likely to try and shoulder the weight of whatever their partner may not care to pick up. That said, Libras tend to learn quickly from their failed expectations, so boundary setting is a must-learn.
Once partnered, which is in itself likely a longer courting process (they do cross their t’s and dot i’s), Libras are unlikely to think about hopping off the scale as opposed to balancing it. They can handle the flexibility of roles and seek to react to their partner to maintain pace and peace.
Catching a Libra’s attention starts with style and ends decisively in substance. If you’re going to pursue a Libra, knowing your intentions with clarity will be key. Libras are experts in magnetism and attraction, knowing just how to pique the interest of others by thoughtful consideration and an uncanny ability to put themselves in others’ shoes.
Some Libras I've met are incredibly kind and charismatic. Others are manipulative and hurtful. It's hard to say for sure what your experience will be with Libras because, like with any other sign, there's such a range. I do find that Libras tend to be indecisive and flaky, which can make it hard to get into a committed relationship with them.
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Really struggled with mixed signals when I was involved with a Libra man. I couldn't tell if he liked me or not because he would sometimes be attentive but then sometimes be distant, and he wasn't great at expressing what he wanted. It was frustrating and I ended up breaking things off with him.
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I feel like the Libra man I just met is sending mixed signals. Thankfully my heart hasn't fallen for him as we have only been out on a couple of dates and have known each other for 2 weeks so far, but with these 2 dates and messaging each other for 2 weeks, he does this hot/cold stuff where he is attentive for a few days then draws back and it's crickets. Sometimes he initiates contact with me, and sometimes he doesn't. With our 2 dates he says he had a great time and wants to see me again, but then when the opportunity comes up he says he needs to check his schedule to see his availability first, and so far he has had me pick the activity for the 2 dates instead of him choosing what to do or him planning it.
While I don't mind being a team player in a relationship and helping figure out the logistics of a date, the fact that I have planned these 2 would tell me he isn't interested in me all that much. Granted we are in the beginning stages of getting to know each other as friends, some of his mannerisms are sending mixed signals--he has paid for both dates even though I offered to get my own bill, he smiles at me and encourages me, he actually talks with me and we hold great conversations in person, he listens to what I'm saying and makes an effort to understand my feelings and remembers small things from our conversations, but then the flip side of that is saying he wants to see me again and then going cold on me or not committing to any plans, even with adequate time to make it happen. So yeah idk. Might be ok to just have him as a friend.
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While I don't mind being a team player in a relationship and helping figure out the logistics of a date, the fact that I have planned these 2 would tell me he isn't interested in me all that much. Granted we are in the beginning stages of getting to know each other as friends, some of his mannerisms are sending mixed signals--he has paid for both dates even though I offered to get my own bill, he smiles at me and encourages me, he actually talks with me and we hold great conversations in person, he listens to what I'm saying and makes an effort to understand my feelings and remembers small things from our conversations, but then the flip side of that is saying he wants to see me again and then going cold on me or not committing to any plans, even with adequate time to make it happen. So yeah idk. Might be ok to just have him as a friend.
He just wants you as a friend. If he liked you and seen you as a potential partner you wouldn’t have to guess or ask. You would know trust me. Going hot and cold we only do that when we like someone as a friend and don’t really intend on being anything further. And when we are bored n need someone to talk to for a bit. But don’t know how to tell that person without hurting them so we just don’t say anything but keep the “relationship goals and talk” out of the conversation because we don’t see one with you. But just want to be friends.
I’m a libra here
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I’m a libra here
I start dating a libra man and lord the hot and cold ( I’m a Taurus w) the not answering questions. An amazing man…. Smh
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My Libra man was a serial cheater unfortunately, and too late I found out he had cheated on all his partners and cheated on his current partner of 8 years for 5 years before she found out but she kept him. I gave up it became too much to deal with.
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In my experience, Libra men aren't the most loyal of the signs. Of course, loyalty depends on the person, but the Libra guys I've interacted with have been at least a little selfish and lost interest easily. Yes, I did get cheated on. I'm not saying that it will happen to you, but I'd keep an eye out for it.
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They don’t have your back. Because of their desire for things to be balanced they will not stand up for what is right when the chips are down. I wasted 37 years of my life with a Libra.
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As a Libra man we aren't in to chasing women, particularly at the onset. If a Libra guy asks you out, he's serious about it and has been thinking about it for some time. This may be a one off with the majority of people today, but for myself and the 3 Libra guys I can think of that run in my social circle, we don't really do the hook up culture thing and, I myself, wont do a one night stand. It takes a tremendous amount of trust and vulnerability to completely remove all defenses and I'm not doing that for no cause. Libras are loyal to a fault. Sometimes clingy and reliant on YOUR happiness to be happy. I'm often seen as a people pleaser, have been told so many times with different relationship types, and I have been called manipulative. I definitely don't intend to be that way, i do however, tend to withhold my voicing of dissatisfaction with things in order to keep the peace and avoid conflict. I used to think that I was not a gossiper, and that is mostly false. I will initiate or at least engage in conversation with just about anyone all the time. If it is with a female it is usually flirtatious in nature even if I have no intentions of any sort of engagement from it; we just want peope to be happy and being told how "completely stunning" they look shouldn't have as much of an effect on ladies as it does, or telling a random guy how fierce he looks. If it sounds kinda "funny" well it is, but straight guys react just like the gay guys do when you say they look fierce, just not the one hand on hip snap and high pitched "OK!" Is included. Another thing, the concept of justice being dolled out evenly is more important to me than it is to most people as I have grown to understand through witnessing its miscarriage, and the responses and lack of responses have shown in a given scenario so yes we like peace and balance, but we recognize being treated unjustly and that is something that sticks. We dont like bullies and will try to intervene strategically if we can.
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