What makes people compatible in long-term relationships?
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People can have very different interests and still be very compatible. I think a lot of it has to do with a shared alignment of your worldview and values. Mutual respect is also huge in successful relationships.
You also have to like being around one another and feel safe and understood by the other person. That will get you very far.
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You also have to like being around one another and feel safe and understood by the other person. That will get you very far.
A great friendship in relationships is important and helps with long-term compatibility! This means laughing together and doing activities together that both of you enjoy. It also means having fun together—sometimes this means setting up “date nights” or “date days” where you can just enjoy each other’s company. Making time to cultivate your friendship with your partner helps with connection and bonding, thereby contributing to great long-term compatibility.
Additionally, couples with less rigidity and more flexibility have a tendency to work out better. These couples tend to be more willing to compromise, which creates a good-feeling atmosphere in the relationship. Rather than getting stuck in power struggles, these couples manage the differences between them in a more seamless way.
Finally, demonstrating that you and your partner care about how each other feels contributes to great long-term compatibility. Expressing care, compassion, comfort, and support when your partner is suffering are all strong relationship builders!
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Additionally, couples with less rigidity and more flexibility have a tendency to work out better. These couples tend to be more willing to compromise, which creates a good-feeling atmosphere in the relationship. Rather than getting stuck in power struggles, these couples manage the differences between them in a more seamless way.
Finally, demonstrating that you and your partner care about how each other feels contributes to great long-term compatibility. Expressing care, compassion, comfort, and support when your partner is suffering are all strong relationship builders!
Long-term compatibility is typically based on shared values, similar life goals, and mutual attraction. It can help if you and your partner have similar political opinions, interests or hobbies, levels of extraversion or introversion, and emotional and intellectual intelligence. Honesty, trust, and communication are also important for a relationship to succeed, as is the ability to work through conflict.
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I met my wife to be! I was 34 and she was 41. We dated 3?years and were married for 42 years until she added away with cancer! I went into business about 1 year before we married. I considered our marriage to be almost perfect until one of her sons from a previous marriage started getting involved in our finances! He was married about 5 times during our marriage and his 5 th wife calls him a control freak. Because he started supposedly borrowing money from us ( actually stealing from us) it started damaging our marriage the last couple of years we were married. She knew I disagreed with giving him money and because he was the only single n she had left from a previous marriage she caved in to his wishes. For about 40 years, in my opinion our marriage was as good as it gets. After her death I filed a lawsuit against him to get some of my money back! We had no children of our own and I did not mind because she meant the world to me! We went go church every Sunday and on her deathbed she told me she was always faithful to me! Jim
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