How do I find out if my (same-gender) bestie is queer?
I have a crush on my bff and I don't know if she is queer and it's very confusing because I want to ask her out but I don't want to ruin our friendship if she's straight. What do I do?
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I used to have the same problem,
-want to look for the simple signs, such as ANY pride flags, ect...
-you might want to ask a friend to ask
-you also might want to bring it up in a conversation, see how she responds
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-want to look for the simple signs, such as ANY pride flags, ect...
-you might want to ask a friend to ask
-you also might want to bring it up in a conversation, see how she responds
I've been looking for signs but I'm not out so I'm not sure how to ask or bring it up
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I would ask her straight up, be like "Hey, I just wanted to ask if you've ever liked girls" or something. (sorry that the advice is bad I have a really bad headache rn and cant really think straight rn)
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Just be honest and straightforward. You could say, “Hey, I want you to know that I’ll always support you, no matter what. I have a genuine question, and I hope it doesn’t make you uncomfortable or put you on the spot. Since we’re best friends, I thought it would be okay to ask—would you feel comfortable sharing what your sexuality is? If you’re not ready or don’t want to talk about it, I completely understand, and my support for you won’t change.”
If she shares that she might be interested in girls, you can respond by sharing your own sexuality, if you feel comfortable. Then, after a couple of weeks—once you’ve both had time to process—you might say, “I really want to be honest with you. You’re an amazing person, and I like you as more than just a friend. Please don’t feel pressured to answer right away, and if you don’t feel the same, I’ll respect that and would still love to remain friends.”
That’s the best advice I can offer. Good luck—you’ve got this!
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If she shares that she might be interested in girls, you can respond by sharing your own sexuality, if you feel comfortable. Then, after a couple of weeks—once you’ve both had time to process—you might say, “I really want to be honest with you. You’re an amazing person, and I like you as more than just a friend. Please don’t feel pressured to answer right away, and if you don’t feel the same, I’ll respect that and would still love to remain friends.”
That’s the best advice I can offer. Good luck—you’ve got this!
She told someone else she's straight 🥹😭 but we're going to see a movie together today so maybe???
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