How to Make Out with a Man & Be a Better Kisser

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Expert tips to make out with a guy for the first time

Co-authored by Eddy Baller and Bailey Cho

Last Updated: October 12, 2025 Fact Checked

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Making out is a fun and romantic way to express your feelings for a guy and increase intimacy. But if you’re not sure how to initiate a make-out session or don’t feel confident in your kissing abilities, we’ve got you covered! In this article, we’ll teach you how to make out with a guy and turn him on. We also interviewed dating and relationship coaches for tips on starting the kiss and improving your technique.

Top Tips to Make Out with a Guy

Dating coach Eddy Baller says to start with light physical contact to show interest in a guy, such as massaging his hand or running your hand up his arm. Once you initiate the kiss, start slow and build intensity by widening your mouth. Introduce your tongue to deepen the kiss and make out, keeping it soft and gentle.

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Showing Him You’re Interested

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   Smile at him and glance at his lips. Smiling is the easiest way to show someone you’re interested and hint for a kiss. If you see him looking at you, give him a quick smile and briefly look at his lips. This sets the mood and encourages him to move closer to you.

   Meet the wikiHow Experts

   Eddy Baller is a dating coach and the owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win.

   Michelle Jacoby is matchmaker, dating coach, and the founder and CEO of DC Matchmaking, with over 12 years of experience.

   Maya Diamond, MA is a dating and relationship coach with 15 years of experience.
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   Maintain strong eye contact and hold it. Eye contact is a great way to flirt, since it creates an instant connection between two people. Flirt with your eyes by looking at him, then looking away, and then looking back for a longer period (more than 3 seconds).
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   Touch your face or twirl your hair around your fingers. When people are feeling flirtatious, they often signal this unconsciously by playing with their hair or touching their face. Send this signal intentionally by resting your hand on your cheek, wrapping a piece of hair around your fingers, or lightly touching your throat.

   • This indicates a desire to be touched and encourages him to break the touch barrier.
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   Rest your hand on his arm while you’re talking to him. This is especially effective if you’re talking about something you’re passionate about, since it seems like a very natural movement. If he smiles or leans towards you, you can caress his arm, face, leg, or back.

   • If he seems uncomfortable with the touch, pull your hand away.
   • Alternatively, position yourself so your knee, thigh, or foot is touching him to show interest.
   • “Starting with a little bit of light physical contact, such as massaging their hand or moving up their arm, builds up the level of intimacy and lets you see how comfortable they are,” says Baller. 
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   Laugh at his jokes to break the tension and relax him. Chances are, he’s just as nervous as you are, so boost his confidence by laughing at his jokes or listening intently to his stories. Be sincere, though, since he’ll be able to pick up on fake laughter.
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Starting the Kiss

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   Part your lips slightly. If you want to get a guy to kiss you, you should give him physical cues that you are interested in a kiss. Part your lips slightly to draw attention to your mouth and make him think about kissing you.
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   Tilt your face towards him and lean your body close. Let your body language show that you’re interested in kissing him. Try to stay relaxed and comfortable as you lean towards him, so he’ll feel comfortable as well.
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   Kiss him if he hasn’t kissed you first. There’s no rule that guys always have to initiate the first kiss. He might be feeling nervous, or he may be unsure if he’s reading the signs right. If you feel like he’s interested in kissing you but he hasn’t worked up the courage yet, go ahead and kiss him first.

   • If you’re not sure if he wants to kiss you, ask for permission. You could make a statement first, like “I’d really love a kiss” or “I’m very attracted to you,” says matchmaker and dating coach Michelle Jacoby.
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   Start your kisses slowly. The best way to make out is to start slowly and then build to a higher intensity. For the first kiss, start with your lips closed or slightly parted, and pull away after a few seconds. Make eye contact with him and smile before you move in for the next kiss.
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   Keep your eyes closed while you kiss. It’s okay to take a peek at your partner once in a while, but kissing with your eyes open can make the other person feel uncomfortable or worried that you’re not enjoying the kiss.

   • Closing your eyes can block out distractions and help you relax, enhancing the kiss and creating a more intimate environment.
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Turning a Kiss into a Make Out Session

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   Open your mouth wider and use your tongue to deepen your kisses. French kissing, or kissing with tongue, is a common way of sharing intimacy with a partner. Slip your tongue across his lips, and gently touch his tongue with your tongue.

   • Don’t shove your tongue into his mouth or be too aggressive. The key is to kiss softly and gently!
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   Move to a comfortable spot if needed. If you start making out while standing up or you’re sitting in an uncomfortable spot, it’s okay to take a break to move somewhere more comfortable. Try sitting on a couch or a bed where you’ll have room to get cozy together.
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   Press your body against his and open your mouth more widely. As you’re kissing, you can show him that you want to move from simple kisses to making out by pressing your body against his and widening your mouth slightly. The heightened physical contact will lead to a feeling of deeper intimacy.

   • “Tune in and attune to the other person while you're kissing them to really feel them, open your mouth, and move your head,” recommends relationship coach Maya Diamond, MA.
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   Touch him on the chest and arms while you’re making out. Don’t just leave your hands lying by your sides or in your lap! Run your hands across his chest or along his upper arms, or rest your hand on the side of his neck. If you take a break from kissing, keep your hands busy by playing with his shirt or his hair.

   • The hips or hands are good places to put your hands when kissing a guy, says Baller.
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   Kiss his neck and around his ears. The neck is a very sensitive area, so don’t be afraid to kiss along his throat or behind his ears. Take the time to whisper something sexy while you’re kissing close to his ears!

   • Try saying something like, “I’m really enjoying this” or “You’re so sexy.”
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   Take a break from kissing every now and then. Stop for a breather every so often, especially if you don’t want things to get too hot and heavy. Play with his hair, touch his face, or play with his fingers while you catch your breath.

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   Be firm if you want to slow things down. If you don’t want things to progress past making out, you should communicate your limits and stop making out before it goes too far. When you're ready to end the make-out session, slow your kisses and gradually stop.

   • Never let anyone pressure you to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. If you want to stop kissing, the other person should stop, even if you’re the one who initiates the kiss.
   • Just because he seems aroused doesn’t mean he’s ready to have sex either. If you do want to go further, talk to him about what he wants and make sure you don’t pressure him into anything more if he wants to stop.
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Why do humans kiss?

WikiFoxChaser795

What is the purpose of people kissing? What does it mean when people kiss? Why do people like to do it? I spent too long thinking about the actual mechanics of just pushing your mouth repeatedly against someone else's mouth and got weirded out...need someone to explain it to me.

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Lauren Sanders
Matchmaker & Dating Coach

People kiss in many different contexts for different reasons. For example, if someone kisses you on the first date, it could mean they are interested in pursuing a potential relationship with you, because if they feel that comfortable---comfortable enough to exchange saliva and to get in your personal space, and allow you to get in their personal space as well---they definitely can see some potential for a future with you. But again, some people are just touchy-feely.

Kissing can also serve as an expression of affection. I'd say that if somebody is willing to kiss you on the first date, one of their primary love languages is probably physical touch, because not everybody does that in the very beginning, but people who are very touchy-feely tend to have physical touch as their primary love language.

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Eddy Baller
Dating Coach

I think there are two sides to that question: 1) How can you tell if a woman wants a man to kiss her? and 2) How can you tell if a man wants to kiss a woman? If you want to know if a woman wants a man to kiss her, the pause where you have a lot of sexual tension is probably the best indication. If she just stares into his eyes and smiles and allows herself to feel butterflies, hopefully that's going to initiate the same response in him. Usually people will mirror each other in these kinds of situations. If he has some balls and he understands the situation, then he might just go for it. Obviously, if you're trying to get somebody else to do something, there's always that risk of they're not gonna understand completely, or if he's really shy, maybe he'll look away and then break that tension and the moment is gone. But that's the main thing—locking your eyes together, smiling, and just pausing. Take it slowly, you don't have to rush to anything.

If you're wondering how to tell if a man wants a woman to kiss him, he's probably going to be looking at her lips and awkwardly smiling a lot. But either way, there should be some sexual tension—you're looking at each other, you feel this thing, this energy or chemistry. There’s usually a lot of smiling going on and looking between the eyes and the lips. That's a good sign he wants to kiss.

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  That’s totally up to you and your makeout partner! Keep it going as long as it feels good to both of you. Look out for signs that he’s getting tired of it, such as pulling away or interrupting things to start a conversation. You can also gently hint that you’re ready to wrap it up by saying something like “Hey, I’m starting to get hungry. Should we go grab a snack?” or “What did you think of that movie last night?” If he doesn’t get the hint, you can also ask him directly to stop.

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  Experiment around to figure out what feels comfortable to you. You could wrap your arms around his waist or shoulders, put your hands on his chest, or caress his face and hair while you kiss him.

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  Why does making out feel good?

  

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  It feels good to be physically close and intimate with someone you love or are attracted too. Kissing, cuddling, and making out cause your brain to release feel-good hormones, such as oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine. Also, your lips and mouth have a lot of nerve endings, which make them very sensitive and receptive to the sensations of kissing.

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