This article was co-authored by Sixu Chen and by wikiHow staff writer, Sophie Burkholder, BA. Sixu Chen is a career and relationship coach, as well as an accomplished interior designer, based in Bellevue, Washington. She is the founder of SCcoaching Group, launched in 2020, and is a certified coach through the Life Purpose Institute. Sixu specializes in guiding young professionals and multi-talented individuals through transformative self-discovery journeys to design fulfilling career paths. She is the creator of the CONFIDENT Career Creation program, specifically designed to help creative minds find clarity, confidence, and direction in their professional lives. In her relationship coaching, Sixu focuses on strengthening communication skills to build deeper, more meaningful connections. She also fosters a community of growth-minded professionals by hosting Coach Connect, a weekly networking event on zoom that brings coaches together to collaborate, share, and support each other. Alongside her coaching work, Sixu channels her creativity into interior design, partnering with Beth Bloom Designs as an independent contractor. She earned her Bachelor of Arts in Interior Design from the California College of the Arts.
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Communication is often cited as the most important factor in a relationship—both sharing your feelings with your partner and actively listening to theirs. That’s why asking each other questions about your individual identities, experiences, goals, and habits as a couple can strengthen your romantic bond and give you the best shot at going the distance. Below, we’ve put together a long list of fun, deep, and challenging questions to ask your partner to get to know them (and your relationship) better. We also spoke to professional dating coaches for recommended questions and tips on how to ask them.
The Best Questions to Ask in a Relationship
Life, career, and relationship coach Sixu Chen recommends asking open-ended questions so you can keep the conversation going and grow closer together. Here are some examples:
- What does your perfect first date look like?
- What are your personal hopes and dreams for the future?
- What family traditions from your childhood do you most want to preserve?
- What are your biggest goals for the next five years?
- What makes you feel secure in our relationship?
- What’s one value you hold that you feel is important for our relationship?
- What’s one thing I can do to support you emotionally?
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- ↑ https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/grow-individually-in-a-relationship/
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- ↑ Zamira Pla. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Embodiment Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ https://www.gottman.com/blog/manage-conflict-triggers/
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- ↑ Lauren Sanders. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview
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- ↑ https://www.gottman.com/blog/10-questions-happy-couples-constantly-asking-one-another/
- ↑ Kevin Nahai. Therapist, Life Coach, and Couples Counselor. Expert Interview
- ↑ Kevin Nahai. Therapist, Life Coach, and Couples Counselor. Expert Interview
- ↑ https://www.youloveandyoulearn.com/blog/deep-meaningful-conversations
- ↑ https://www.marriage.com/advice/communication/reasons-husband-wont-talk/
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