How to Tell Your Girlfriend That You Want to Marry Her

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Last Updated: November 20, 2023

Have you been going out with a girl so long that you think it might be time to marry her? Do you know how to tell her or the right time to tell her?

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Make sure that you know that you love her with all of your heart, otherwise things may not run smoothly in the long run. If you're not sure that you love her then maybe you shouldn't be looking at this.^{[1]
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You don't want to rush things if it is too soon.

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. You should have a ring to propose.^{[2]
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A fancy restaurant is really nice and extremely romantic.
It's hard for a girl to say "no" when everything is romantic.
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If and when she says 'yes', put the engagement ring on her finger and get up and kiss her if you want to.^{[4]
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Do I need a ring to propose?

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No, but it is a more traditional way. Drop small hints, and if she sounds like she wants a ring try to earn some extra cash or find a budgeted ring that is still up to her standards. If she doesn't want one, then maybe wait and surprise her with one as an anniversary or birthday gift, or you can skip it entirely.

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If I propose, should I tell her to think about it before she answers?

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No. The rule is to never ask the question until you're sure she'll say yes. If she says "I need to think about it," you may have asked the question too soon, or you may have disappointed her expectations about that special moment. Also, if you remind her of her rights, it reduces the romance of the moment, and may be an indication that you're not sure, either. She may have been dreaming about this for years. It's your job to find out what those dreams are, what she dreams a perfect proposal would be like, and give that to her. Be strong, confident and to-the-point. However, if she does ask for time to think, respect that.

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What do I do if I want to marry my lover, but I'm being forced to marry someone else?

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You can tell your parents that it's your choice whom you can marry and that you have already promised this girl that you would marry her. It's not fair on you or the other person to marry someone you don't want to marry.

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Get her a diamond. Most girls love diamonds (diamonds are a girl's best friend), Or find out what she would prefer because some girls don't like diamonds. Your girlfriend will think that it is very sweet that you would take what she likes into consideration.^{[5]
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Make her feel special, tell her how beautiful she looks and how special she makes you feel, Women love to be appreciated.

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Public announcements might be nice, but if she turns you down it might lead to embarrassment.

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Be careful with her parents. If they don't like you, then it would be hard for them to let go of their baby to let her marry you.

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Don't be scared of rejection and be prepared for both answers. She might say "no," but if she really loves you she will say "yes."

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