280 Flirty Questions to Ask a Girl to Make Her Blush

Whether you’re chatting a cute girl up on Snapchat or text, or you’re talking face-to-face, a flirty question is a great way to get you both giggling and blushing, or just help you get a little more intimate. If you need a little help coming up with questions, you’ve come to the right place. We’ve compiled a list of over 280 flirty questions to ask your crush, girlfriend, or a girl you’ve just met, with helpful flirting tips from professional dating coaches and matchmakers.

The Best Questions to Ask a Girl

Dating coach John Keegan recommends asking the following cute and flirty questions to your partner or crush to get to know them better:

“If you could go on a romantic destination with me, where would it be?”
“What were you like as a kid?”
“What’s your rising sign?”
“If your life were a movie, what genre would it be?”
“What’s your biggest turn-on?”
“What’s your favorite way to receive affection?”

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Flirty Questions to Ask Your Crush

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Find out what dating her might be like based on her answers. When it comes to flirting, especially over text, certified professional matchmaker Shana Tibi says to find the sweet spot “between subtle and over-the-top.”^{[1]
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Expert Interview} Be forward enough that your crush can tell you’re into her, but not so forward that it makes her feel uncomfortable. Keep things lighthearted and playful, and show that you’re genuinely interested in getting to know her as a person.
- “What’s the top song on your make-out playlist?”
- “Who was your first crush?”
- "If I could take you out right now, where would you want to go?"
- “What is your love language?”^{[2]
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- "Do you believe in love at first sight?"
- “What is your biggest turn-on?”
- “What is your biggest turn-off?”
- “Do you like to make the first move?”
- “Do you think you're a good kisser?”^{[3]
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- “Have you ever been in love?”
- “What was your first impression of me?”
- “Are you the big spoon or the little spoon?”
- “Do you like sharing a bed with someone?”
- “Do you like to be complimented?”
- "Are you willing to try new things?"
- “What type of personality are you attracted to?”
- “When was your first kiss?”
- “What attracts you to me?”
- “Of all the questions I could ask you, what wouldn’t you want me to ask?”
- “If we could spend the whole night together, what would you want to do?”
- “What’s your favorite couple’s Halloween costume?”
- “Do you scream on roller coasters? What if you were holding my hand?”
- “Would you be more likely to say yes to a trivia night or a sunrise hike for a date?”
- “What’s your idea of a perfect date?”
- “What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done?”
- “What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?”
- “If you could kiss any fictional character, who would it be?”
- “What’s your idea of a perfect weekend getaway?”
- “What do romance movies get wrong most of the time?”
- “If you designed your ideal dating app, what would it look like?”
- “Which is better: makeup sex or breakup sex?”
- “What’s the worst date you’ve ever been on?”
- “What is the best gift someone has ever given you?”
- “Which movie kiss would you most want to recreate?”
- “How do you like to be surprised?”
Meet the wikiHow Experts

John Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He has over 15 years of experience and teaches and hosts dating workshops internationally.

Shana Tibi is a certified professional matchmaker, date and relationship coach, and the founder of Curated Connections, a matchmaking service for single professionals.

Suzanna Matthews is a dating and relationship coach and the founder of The Date Maven. She has over a decade of experience and specializes in creating mindset tools and social strategies to help her clients elevate dating and deepen connections.

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Flirty Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend or Wife

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Keep the romance alive in a long-term relationship. Whether you’re married or in a long-term relationship with your girlfriend, flirting with her is a good way to remind her how much you love her. Plus, asking flirty questions can help make sure you’re both still on the same page when it comes to romance. Here are some examples:
- “Foot rub or back rub?”
- “Do you remember the first time I told you ‘I love you’?”
- “Do you remember the first time you told me you loved me?”
- “If we recreated our first date, would you change anything?”
- “What are you most excited about for our future together?”
- “What do you love about me?”
- “Can I tell you what I love most about you?”
- “What smell reminds you of me?”
- “When did you first realize you were in love with me?”
- “Want to know when I first realized I was falling for you?”
- “What’s the best vacation we’ve ever taken together?”
- “What’s your favorite outfit that I wear?”
- “If you could be anywhere in the world right now, where would you be?”
- “If you could plan a surprise for me, what would it be?”
- “If I could steal a kiss right now, where would it be?”
- “What’s the most fun we’ve ever had together?”
- “How do you feel when I hold your hand?”
- “Do you prefer cuddling or dancing when we’re together?”
- “What’s a playful way I can make you blush?”
- “What’s the most attractive quality you see in me?”
- “What’s your favorite romantic memory with me?”
- “How do you feel when I whisper sweet nothings to you?”
- “What’s a romantic fantasy you’d like to share with me?”
- “How do you like to be pampered after a long day?”
- “What’s a new activity you’d like us to try together?”
- “How do you feel about slow dancing in the living room?”
- “What’s a small gesture that makes you feel loved?”
- “What’s your favorite way to say ‘I love you’ without words?”
- “How can I make our intimate moments more special for you?”
- “If we had to plan the cheesiest date ever, what would we do?”
- “What’s a tradition you love and would want to pass on?”
- “What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to do on a date?”
- “If I said, ‘Guess what I’m thinking,” what would you first guess be?”
- “What’s something I do that makes you feel desired?”
- “What’s the most exhilarating risk you’ve taken in our relationship?”

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Flirty Questions to Make Her Blush

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Ask these sexy questions to get her all hot and bothered. Odds are, you’ll get hot and bothered, too. These flirty questions won’t just make her blush; they’ll also tell you a lot about her sexual preferences and improve physical intimacy between you both.
- “What’s your favorite place to be kissed?”
- “What’s the hottest memory of the two of us?”
- "What physical feature do you find most attractive in another person?"
- “Lights on or lights off?”
- "Do you enjoy French kissing?"
- “How can I keep the physical intimacy between us strong throughout the day, outside of the bedroom?”^{[4]
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- “Fiery and fast, or slow and sensual?”
- “What are your thoughts on sexting?”
- “What’s your biggest fantasy?”
- "Is the third date too soon for Netflix and chill?"
- "Have you ever sent dirty text messages?"
- “Where and how do you like to be touched?”^{[5]
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- “What is your favorite part of your body? Can I guess it?”
- “Are you more turned on by smell, sight, or touch?”
- “What is your favorite part of my body, and can you describe it without words?”
- “What’s your biggest non-traditional turn-on?”
- “You have 10 minutes alone with me to do whatever you want. What would we do?”
- “Shower, pool, or hot tub?”
- “Back rubs in the front room or front rubs in the back room?”
- “What’s your favorite kind of foreplay?”
- “What’s the craziest place you’ve ever had sex?”
- “What color underwear are you wearing right now?”
- “What song’s at the top of your sexy playlist right now?”
- “Would you rather spend a whole day with me or a whole night with me?”
- “If you were an ice cream cone, would you prefer to be licked or bitten?”
- “What’s your go-to outfit for feeling sexy?”
- “If you could take off one piece of my clothing, what would it be?”
- “Do you ever go commando? Would you tell me if you did?”
- “If you could dip anything into chocolate and eat it, what would it be?”
- “What’s your favorite way to tease someone?”
- “What’s your favorite intimate moment we’ve shared?”
- “What’s a favorite lingerie style that you love to wear?”
- “How do you like to initiate intimacy?”
- “Do you prefer lighting candles or dimming the lights?”
- “How do you feel about massages as a part of foreplay?”

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Flirty Questions to Ask a Girl You Just Met

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Gauge her interest with some fun, flirty questions. When you’re first getting to know a girl, whether on a dating app or in person, flirting is a great way to show you’re romantically interested in her. Since you don’t know her well, avoid asking questions that are overtly sexual, and instead opt for cheeky, PG-rated questions. Here are some examples:
- “When was the last time someone made you blush?”
- “If your life were a rom-com, what would your theme song be?”
- “Do you believe in fate, or do you think we create our own destiny?”
- “How direct would you want someone to be if they had feelings for you?”
- “Do you prefer morning dates or evening dates?”
- “What’s your favorite cuisine, and what dish should we try together?”
- “What was the best thing that happened to you today?”
- “If you could have a romantic dinner with anyone from history, who would it be?”
- “Can I see the last selfie you took? Tell me the story behind it.”
- “Has anyone ever told you that you are the most stunning woman in the world?”
- “What always makes you laugh?”
- “What is the cheesiest pickup line anyone’s ever tried on you? Did it work?”
- “Do you prefer good morning texts or goodnight texts?”
- “What’s your favorite way to relax after a long day?”
- “Do you like surprises?”
- “What’s your favorite flower?”
- “What’s your most romantic travel destination?”
- “What’s your favorite way to receive affection?”
- “What’s your favorite love song?”
- “What’s the most charming thing someone has done for you?”
- “What’s the cutest thing you’ve ever done for someone?”
- “What’s the silliest nickname you’ve ever had?”
- “How do you show someone you’re interested without saying it?”
- “What’s your go-to move for making someone smile?”
- “What’s your favorite way to indulge?”
- “Are you someone who likes to plan ahead or be spontaneous?”
- “Are there things you like about being single? Things you don’t like?”
- “If you were in a relationship right now, who would your celebrity hall pass be?”
- “What’s something non-physical that you find attractive?”
- “What makes you automatically swipe left on someone?”
- “What’s your go-to flirting move?”
- “What’s the biggest hint you’ve ever dropped that you liked someone?”
- “If I saved your contact with emojis, what should they be?”
- “Has anyone ever told you how nice your (feature) is/are?”
- “Do I make you nervous?”

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wikiHow Quiz: Do I Have Rizz?

What does it mean to have a lot of rizz? “Rizz” is short for “charisma,” and it basically measures your charm and appeal—especially when it comes to flirting. So, how much rizz do you have right now? Are you a natural at chatting people up, or does your rizz game need a little work? Answer a few simple questions and find out!

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What do you absolutely need to have rizz?

Confidence.

Witty one-liners.

Money.

Self-love.

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Flirty Questions to Make Her Laugh

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Ask fun, silly questions to break the ice. Dating and relationship coach Suzanna Matthews says, “The core of flirting is simply playfulness.”^{[6]
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Expert Interview} Many people say they want a partner with a good sense of humor, so if you can make her laugh, you’re off to a good start! Here are some funny questions to ask her:
- “If you were in a biker gang, what would your nickname be?”
- "How on earth are you still single?"
- “What’s your go-to dance move, and can I see it?”
- “What’s the most disturbing thing under your bed?”
- “Which would you be more scared of: skinny-dipping at a public beach or wearing a snowsuit on a nude beach?”
- “Which is sexier: me doing the dishes or me vacuuming?”
- “Hey, how YOU doin’??”
- “Which Britney Spears song would you most like to act out?”
- “If you were cake, what kind of filling would you have?”
- “What’s your favorite flirty emoji?”
- “If you were a flavor, what would you be and why?”
- “Why is it that I love talking to you this much? Any theories?”
- “If your life had a theme song, what would it be?”
- “If you could swap lives with a cartoon character for a day, who would it be?”
- “Which cereal mascot would make the worst roommate?”
- “What’s the silliest fear you had as a kid?”
- “What’s your ultimate ‘useless skill’ flex?”
- “If you had a warning label, what would it say?”
- “What’s your favorite oddly specific smell (fresh tennis balls, a new notebook, etc.)?”
- “What’s the funniest ‘oops’ moment you’ve had on social media?”
- “If our love story were a movie, what would it be called?”
- “If you had to choose an animal to best represent me, what would it be and why?”
- “What’s the funniest thing you’d put in your wedding vows?”
- “What’s one thing I do that makes you laugh every time?”
- “What’s a silly habit or quirk you’ll admit only to me?”
- “If we were to open a restaurant together, what would it be called and what’s the signature dish?”
- “If we had to compete together on a reality TV show, which one would we win?”
- “If I asked you out, would your answer be the same as the answer to this question?”
- “If we were both cats, would you share your sunspot?”
- “What’s a girl like you doing in a question like this?”
- “Can I borrow a kiss? I’ll give it back.”
- “Would we survive a zombie apocalypse together, or would you trip me?”
- “If we were pretending to be a couple, how convincing would we be?”
- “If I made dinner, would you pretend to like it even if it was awful?”
- “If you had one wish, would it involve me?”

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Questions to Get to Know Her

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Get a girl to open up by asking lighthearted questions about her. Tibi says when you’re getting to know someone, “You might want to know a little bit of information about why that person likes you, what their interests [are], [and] what core values you two share…”^{[7]
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Expert Interview} To break the ice, start with superficial topics like books, TV, and entertainment. Then, once you know each other a bit better, move into shared experiences and deeper topics. Here are some examples:
- "What is something about you that people would never guess?"
- “What music do you listen to?”
- “What does an ideal weekend look like for you?”
- “What is your biggest fear?”
- “How do you feel about astrology?”
- “If you had to live in a different city, where would you go?”
- “What is the worst movie you’ve ever seen on a date?”
- “What was your AIM screen name?”
- “Tell me something on your bucket list.”
- “Early riser or night owl?”
- “How do you wind down after work?”
- “What is your biggest pet peeve?”
- “What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?”^{[8]
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- “Coffee or tea?”
- “What’s the last concert you’ve been to?”^{[9]
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- “Do you consider yourself to be romantic?”
- “What’s a hidden talent you have that most people don’t know about?”
- “What’s a song that you secretly love but will never admit to liking?”
- “What’s one movie you feel very passionate about?”
- “Are you a cat person or a dog person?”
- “What’s your favorite guilty pleasure?”
- “What do you like to do on a rainy day?”
- “What’s one fact you wish every girl/guy understood?”
- “What’s the silliest argument you’ve ever gotten into with a stranger?”
- “Have you ever been kicked out of a public place, and if so, what’s the story?”
- “If you could have any superpower, what would it be?”
- “If you had to watch the same movie every day for a month, what would it be?”
- “What do you do if you wake up in the middle of the night and can’t go back to sleep?”
- “What’s something that you love, but you’re not sure why?”
- “What do you think about right before you fall asleep?”
- “Where did you grow up?”
- “What’s something you’re looking forward to right now?”
- “In what ways do you think we’re similar?”
- “Where do you stand on reality TV?”
- “What’s your favorite place you’ve traveled to?”

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Deep Questions to Ask a Girl

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Peel back her layers by getting her input on deep topics. Flirting is fun and sexy, and it’s also an amazing way to get to know someone you might be interested in pursuing a relationship with. “If things are getting more serious, talking about your feelings and your plans,” says Tibi. “What are your five-year plans? Are you on the same page as that person? Talk about your core values, [such as] lifestyle, how you manage money, [whether] you see yourself having children, [and] religion.”^{[10]
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Expert Interview} Asking deep questions can help you determine if you and the girl you’re interested in are actually compatible.
- “Do you see yourself having kids one day?”
- “What’s your biggest regret?”
- “What makes you feel safe?”
- “What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever been through?”
- “What's your relationship with your family?”
- “If you could reconnect with one person from your past, who would it be?”
- “What’s a bad habit you had that you’ve overcome?”
- “What is your happiest childhood memory?”
- “What is something people usually misunderstand about you?”
- “When you are upset, do you want support or alone time?”
- “Have you been to therapy?”
- “Which parent are you closest to?”
- “What's something no one knows about you?”
- “What’s one thing you would say to your younger self?”
- “What would you do if you got a chance to repeat life all over again?”
- “What’s something you will never give up or change for me?”
- “What is your favorite thing about yourself?”
- “What is one moment in your life you would love to relive?”
- “Do you see yourself getting married one day?”
- “What’s the best advice you’ve ever gotten?”
- “What’s something you’ve done that you think everyone could benefit from trying?”
- “Are your parents together?”
- “Do you have any phobias?”
- “Is the approval of others important to you?”
- “When’s the last time you felt inspired to create something?”
- “Who in life do you look up to most?”
- “What’s something you’d like to learn more about?”
- “What’s the most rebellious thing you’ve ever done?”
- “Do people trust you to keep secrets?”
- “How did your parents meet?”
- “How would you describe your approach to conflict resolution style?”
- “Do you think it matters more what we achieve or who we surround ourselves with?”
- “What are your coping tools for dealing with stress or anxiety?”
- “What accomplishment are you most proud of?”^{[11]
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- “What do you think you’ll be like in old age?”
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Relationship Questions to Ask a Girl

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Learn about her core values and beliefs when it comes to relationships. You don’t have to have everything in common with your partner, but if you don’t have similar values, it may cause some tension. If you’re just getting to know someone, ask about her general thoughts and experiences about love and relationships. If things are getting serious, ask more focused questions, like where she sees the relationship going. Here are some examples:
- “What are your thoughts on who picks up the check?”
- “What are your thoughts on long-distance dating?”
- “What’s your biggest dealbreaker in a relationship?”^{[12]
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- “How did your last relationship end?”
- “What’s your biggest regret from your last relationship?”
- “What are your thoughts on open relationships/non-monogamy?”
- “How soon into a relationship would you want to meet my family?”
- “What’s your favorite thing about being in a relationship?”
- “Who was your first love?”
- “When was your last relationship?”
- “Do you believe in soulmates?”
- “Have you ever had your heart broken?”
- “Have you ever broken someone’s heart?”
- “Have you ever been cheated on?”^{[13]
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- “Have you ever cheated on someone?”
- “What traits do you think are most important to find in a partner?”
- “What type of partner do you consider yourself to be?”
- “Whose relationship do you admire and why?”
- “What’s the worst thing about dating today?”
- “Would you consider yourself a relationship person or someone who’s generally more comfortable being single?”
- “Do you fall in love easily?”
- “What’s something you’d like to do differently in your next relationship?”
- “In relationships, do you move pretty quickly or take things slow?”
- “How big a role do you think timing plays in love?”
- “Do you think it’s more important to chase passion or stability?”
- “What’s the boldest way someone has ever asked you out?”
- “How do you feel about public displays of affection?”
- “What’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever wanted to do?”
- “What’s one thing you’ve learned about love from being with me?”
- “In what ways do you hope we can grow together as a couple?”
- “How do you envision us keeping the romance alive through the years?”
- “What are your thoughts on compromise and sacrifice within our relationship?”
- “How do you envision us maintaining our individuality while building our life together?”
- “How do you feel about balancing time between our hobbies, friends, and together time?”
- “What role do you see our families playing in our life together?”