Am I a narcissist?
This quiz said that I'm "not empathetic". But is it a bad thing to be more focused on myself? Everyone says to take care of yourself first and then take care of the people around you. Where do you draw the line?
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the quiz says I'm definitely sensitive but I'm constantly told on empathetic and the quiz seems to be more self deprivation than actually being empathetic
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That's what I was thinking, i have been told many times that I'm not empathetic at all, that i care about others than myself, but the quiz said I'm definitely empathetic. Is it bad that I felt disgusted the first time I read it?
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This is a challenging dilemma and one I grapple with a lot. What's the line between self-care and empathy? They seem fundamentally at odds.
I like to ask myself: do I have the skills to self-soothe and care for myself, and do I have the skills to support others? Do I know how to access and create resources for myself and others? If the answer to one of these is no, then you need to spend some time building skills in that direction (whether self-love or empathy). But we all need to have a balance, and we're not perfect. If sometimes we choose ourselves too much, that doesn't mean we're bad people. It just means we're flawed, like everyone else.
On the flipside, this means we're going to give other people some grace. We're going to understand that they also won't be able to choose others 100% of the time, and that no one can have 100% of their needs met by one person.
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I like to ask myself: do I have the skills to self-soothe and care for myself, and do I have the skills to support others? Do I know how to access and create resources for myself and others? If the answer to one of these is no, then you need to spend some time building skills in that direction (whether self-love or empathy). But we all need to have a balance, and we're not perfect. If sometimes we choose ourselves too much, that doesn't mean we're bad people. It just means we're flawed, like everyone else.
On the flipside, this means we're going to give other people some grace. We're going to understand that they also won't be able to choose others 100% of the time, and that no one can have 100% of their needs met by one person.
Being completely unrelated to you and just answering your question- No, focussing on yourself isn't a bad thing. You are who you live with for the most amount of time, so ofc you gotta look after yourself. But I think it becomes a challenge when all that you think about is yourself. Remember that everyone is going through their share of struggles, and its human tendency to wish for someone to be there for you at times like that. Reaching out to people is a way to let them know that you're there for them. You don't have to talk or call every day, because ofc we're all busy in our lives, but just reaching out and telling them they can rely on you when they need you and being there without any expectations is where I draw the line. I am important to me, but they are important to me too.
Don't doubt yourself too much and try opening up to others and feel for them too. Seeing that you asked that question I'm quite positive you're not a narcissist but do try seeking professional help for your wellbeing
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Don't doubt yourself too much and try opening up to others and feel for them too. Seeing that you asked that question I'm quite positive you're not a narcissist but do try seeking professional help for your wellbeing
I wouldn't take the results of this quiz too seriously. Its just something to consider. Narcissism is something that you must be diagnosed with. Seek a professional opinion.
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You might have a warped perception of your behavior, so asking other people to be honest with you can be helpful for figuring out if you have narcissistic tendencies. For an outside perspective from someone who's more unbiased and completely unrelated to you, you can seek professional help.
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Yes it is important to take care of yourself first sometimes. But if what you are doing isn’t so harming others forget it if how you are choosing to take care of yourself is hurting people stop find another way set clear boundaries for yourself but remember to take care of people and be as understanding as you can. :3 have a lovely day
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What do my results mean?
You may not be an empath, but you definitely have an empathetic heart. And we love that about you!
You’re an amazing shoulder to cry on and the best pal a person could have. But at times, your sensitivity may feel like a weakness. After all, it can be tough to feel so affected by others’ feelings. But the truth is, your empathy is a superpower. It’s your kind heart that makes you such an awesome person to be around, and every day, your light is making the world a brighter place. So, even when you’re feeling a bit low, remind yourself that you’re amazing just the way you are!
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You may not be an empath, but you definitely have an empathetic heart. And we love that about you!
You’re an amazing shoulder to cry on and the best pal a person could have. But at times, your sensitivity may feel like a weakness. After all, it can be tough to feel so affected by others’ feelings. But the truth is, your empathy is a superpower. It’s your kind heart that makes you such an awesome person to be around, and every day, your light is making the world a brighter place. So, even when you’re feeling a bit low, remind yourself that you’re amazing just the way you are!
It is true that self care is important, but it must not be confused with self-indulgence. Care for yourself, to better provide those around you. Care, as in to improve your health, moral, and understanding; provide, as in to give for the sake of kind intention rather then the expectation of return. To provide for the well being your family, friends, and all those around you in any way at any scale. It is important to note that when "giving" you must find a way to do so in a healthy and logical manner, that way you are not affected in any negative way.
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Putting yourself first is not a bad thing, however, when you bring in empathy in it’s a bit different. If you decide to put yourself first regardless of having an understanding of someone else’s situation that may require more attention above you, then yes you lack empathy. You lack it because you thought yourself more valuable and disregarded their situation and feelings putting your own above all.
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I constantly think about other people, I feel worthless when I can´t help people who are hurting. I cry when my friends cry, I hate seeing them in pain. I can´t watch videos which are supossed to be ,,funny" but where the people get hurt, it looks too painful too watch. In this quiz I got ,,you´re a total empath" and maybe it´s true, trough my life quite some people told me that I´m too empathetic for my won good, that I should slowly put my own needs before others. I want to become a therapist to help people, but my father said I shouldn´t do that because as a psychologic he thinks it would break me seeing all these suffering people every day
Voted: 👎 No
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That's not a bad thing, just make sure you don't make anyne feel bad. People say I'm mean and don't care about anyone, but they're wrong.
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because people that focus more on other people than themselves end up with depresion because they have no time for themselves, they waste their time helping others.
Voted: 👎 No
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You draw the line being true to your self. Then your life will unfold accordingly.... if you are not satisfied with how life unfolds go back to thinking and talking to those close to you.
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I don't consider myself a narcissist. I researched the traits associated with narcissism on Google and reflected on my own behavior through self-examination, finding that I possess none of those traits.
Voted: 👎 No
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While I may have the heart of an empath who's willing to make change, I also have the envy and pride of a narcissist which ends up dominating my mind a majority of the time. Obviously I don't take out my insecurities on people most of the time, but that urge to always be better or the best is always there in the back of my head.
Voted: 👍 Yes
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I wonder how does one take care of and help others if they can’t do it for themselves ? Doesn’t one need to be healed and in a half decent position to be able to help others ?
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Well many people tend to put themselves below other people if they are a people pleaser
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I look after everyone around me regardless of my personal situation or circumstances it doesn’t matter if I’m sad, hurting, feeling like no one cares about me at, as long as I can make sure another person realise that someone does care everything I endure is worth it
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The quiz told me I am a total empath witch means I have very very strong empathy. I truly know that even if it says you're a narcissist, you still have a strong power kindness and love in your heart.
Voted: 👎 No
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honestly, I gotta say, I got empathetic. like the test said, it's a blessing, and a curse. I care about others too much, and I feel like I give everything away for their own happiness, and people still take advantage of me. so, it is good to take care of yourself. but, make sure that you care about others too, so you don't lose friends or trust.
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I don’t think it’s a bad thing necessarily, but you might hurt peoples feelings often. Also, with the sibling ones, what if someone doesn’t have a sibling, also, my sibling and I don’t really have a good relationship. We haven’t for most of my life.
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The questions are good, but the result doesn’t fit. I know I m a “Super Empath” (Official test and more than 5 therapists told me)…after I hit rock bottom during a relationship with a narcissistic borderliner. I healed and learned to set my mental health and well being at first priority. That doesn’t mean I m “not an empath) as the result said.
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same everyone tells me I'm one of the best people they know. gets kinds annoying after 7 years... anyway, about you, I;m so sorry! and it's good that you've learned how to set boundaries. that will really help later in life.
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You probably feel that way because your empathic nature makes you believe that anything you do for yourself is negative.
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because I don't care about myself as much as other people care about themselves
Voted: 👎 No
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I think when the person hurts you on purpose (mentally/physically) too many time that were you draw the line
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my parents tell me im narcissistic, but my little sister gets energy drinks and snacks everytime anyone leaves the house whereas im stuck with the chips i like the least cus its all we have in the house, and they dont buy things i enjoy often, maybe once every 2 months. i took a singular soda from my mom's soda case without asking and she immediately started telling my stepdad and yelling at me. i just want a small treat every once in a while. what makes it worse is my sister 1) sees our bio dad still, and gets snacks over there too, (he cut me off for zero reason) and 2) her room looks like a dump due to food trash and IM the one gettng yelled at for "wrecking the house" because i had 3 wrappers in my (otherwise empty) room. theyre taking me to church every sunday (i dont believe but wtv yk), and they ask me if im okay after and i say my back hurts (scoliosis) and then they use that against me (oh why do anything for you, you cant stand for 2 hours) meanwhile i feel like my spine is on fire bc im DISABLED, and they say its disrespectful to sit in the church so i gotta stand with sharp pain. i got empath on the quiz but idk anymore since im repeatedly told i act like a narc.
Voted: 🤔 Maybe
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i got not empathetic or narcissist
makes sense i'd rather focus on myself but i'll help when needed. fits me nicely.
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makes sense i'd rather focus on myself but i'll help when needed. fits me nicely.
I agree 100%. I put myself first, and then I take care of the people around me once I'm good. How is that narcissism?
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When you are caring for self and another at the same time there is connection and empathy happening together. That option was available.
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