Beliefs feel mocked
Hey, im a christian girl, and my friend beliefs in lgbtq, but then she started to push that stuff in my face, and i have asked her politely to stop, she mocked my religion by pretending the cross burned down and i have asked her politely to stop, then a few weeks later she showed me a story that she made i read it and it had lgbtq in it, so i told her that i could not read it and she said, "oh its just those two parts," and i felt kinda disrespected. My parents said that she was kinda peer pressuring me, and i could see that, they told me next time she does that, i needed to stand my ground and stay firm, which i agree. What do you think? Do you agree on what my parents are saying?
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It seems like you're in turmoil about this decision, which might mean there is something about this friend that really matters to you. A lot of relationships are messy, and no one's perfect. We all do and say problematic things, sometimes. Before you cut this person off, I recommend making space for that part of you that really cares about this person and was deeply hurt by them.
If, after sitting with that part of you, you want to show this person some grace, that's a decision you can make. You can say that your intention is to repair with them, because you value the friendship. Or if the pain was too much, and you decide that they are totally against your values, then you might choose not to repair. But repairing can actually be a good opportunity to teach.
I think conflict can be a good thing. If you go to them and try to carefully explain your philosophy and side, and even if in the end, you have to end the friendship, know that they're going to think about this friendship and interaction at some point down the line. This could be an important learning moment for them to start respecting other belief systems, even if it doesn't work out between the two of you.
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If, after sitting with that part of you, you want to show this person some grace, that's a decision you can make. You can say that your intention is to repair with them, because you value the friendship. Or if the pain was too much, and you decide that they are totally against your values, then you might choose not to repair. But repairing can actually be a good opportunity to teach.
I think conflict can be a good thing. If you go to them and try to carefully explain your philosophy and side, and even if in the end, you have to end the friendship, know that they're going to think about this friendship and interaction at some point down the line. This could be an important learning moment for them to start respecting other belief systems, even if it doesn't work out between the two of you.
Hey, as a right leaning Hindu Republican myself, I get what you're saying. Yes, you are indeed being peer pressured into believing something you don't want to. Look, ultimately, it's you who gets to decide what you want or don't want to believe in, but faith is probably the strongest entity a human can experience, and if something or someone comes in its way, I encourage you to not interact with that disturbance. I support lesbian, gay and bisexual rights myself, but that doesn't mean I will demean someone who doesn't or coerce them into doing so. In fact, if someone is looking for support for their community or movement, they have to learn to give respect in order to earn it. Think over it and decide for yourself, not letting your friend or someone else do that for you.
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Sweetie! okay, so this girl should be removed from your life, (if you wish) because this is toxic, mean girl behavior, my friend tried doing that to me, i cut her off (im Baptist and in high school) if she is pressuring you to look at things that dont follow your beleifs, Do not give in! stay stron in your faith! i beleive in you. :)
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DROP HER!!!! YOU DONT NEED HER OML dude I am all for expressing yourself but IF YOU SHOVE YOUR BELIEFS IN SOMEONE ELSE'S FACE THAT IS WRONG!!!! leave her, you don't need her
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Your parents are right. You should AVOID her if she mocks your religion and pressures you into lgbtq
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Hi! This is A Wiccan Here and I myself have had my own beliefs mocked by my brother who hit me and said that he wouldn’t get punished bc the threefold law wouldn’t affect him (he did get punished by mom)
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Your friend is most definitely in the wrong here. This is peer pressure, and if she does this than she is not a good friend. Being in the LGBTQ+ community does NOT allow her to mock you on your beliefs. She seems very toxic espessally if she does not respect your boundaries.
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ok. number one: being Christian does not mean hating lgptq, no one has an excuse to be sexist, ableist, racist or homophobic. but if someone is being rude about your religion and you've told them to stop, first: consider their reasoning. I suspect your friend feels threatened by your beliefs, make it clear that you have accepted that their lgptq and are okay with that, but that you are not okay with how they are using that fact to insult your religion. do not try and force your beliefs on others but make it clear that they will not be able to change who you are and expect as much in return.
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You should distance yourself from here because I had that happen to me (it was trans people in my case), and I'm not like a crazy religious person, but I like to wear crosses, and once I distanced myself felt a lot better. So my advice is that if someone who is your friend doesn't respect you and your values, then they don't see you as just someone with different beliefs but rather just someone they just need to convince.
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ok hi this is an LGBTQ+ girl here but yeah that girl is being really toxic from what I read you shoudn't even talk to her this seems like a very toxic human
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I love that their are people on the other side that realize how bad this behavior is. I applaud you and thank you for your common sense.
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