We have been friends for almost 10 years, and we had liked each other for over 8 years. We started dating in secret (which lasted almost a year), without letting our parents know, but he recently became distant and yesterday he sent me a message saying he wants to break up with me.
And I understood the reason as to why he was being distant, he was dealing with his parents and having to hear that they don't approve of our relationship as I'm Hispanic while he is Asian.
I find out that his parents don't approve of the relationship as they are very conservative and tradition. I'm in a position where I don't know what to do or what to think, as he said that it's not my fault and that he still loves me but wanted to break things off as he wanted to listen to his parents.
I haven't responded to him as I am still grasping and denying the whole situation. I wanted our relationship to work out, but it feels like he took matters into his own hands, part of me still wishes to get back together with him but I do want to give him space for the time being. I have tried to only see him as a friend (before we started dating) but I just can't, I love him and care for him but in the situation that I'm in right now I'm not sure how to respond...
I am sad, yes. But also, mad that he didn't stand up for himself or our relationship, but I don't blame him as his parents are very strict. which I understand puts him into a corner where he can only choose his parents. I just wish I could help him stand up for himself and maybe in the future see if we could try again.
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