How to Use Sexual Energy

Wondering how to maximize your sexual energy to manifest the future you want? Your sexual energy is a valuable and powerful resource, and there are plenty of easy ways to take advantage of this energy to convert it into something else or maximize your sexual pleasure. In this article, we’ll break down what your sexual energy is, how you can transmute it (i.e. convert it into something new), and various ways you might enhance and explore your sexual energy.

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How can you convert sexual energy?

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You convert sexual energy by adjusting your sexual behavior. Think of sexual energy like normal matter; it cannot be created or destroyed, just converted to something else. There are two general strategies you might employ to convert sexual energy (although there are several ways you could go about them):^{[1]
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- Sexual abstinence—refraining from sex or masturbation for a period of time to spend your sexual energy elsewhere.
- Sexual expression—changing the way you engage in sex or masturbation to change the flow of energy.

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What is sexual transmutation?

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It’s the process of converting sexual energy into a higher goal. Your sexual desires, your orgasm, and your attraction to others are all-powerful forces. That energy can be redirected to non-sexual desires, though! This is the premise behind sexual transmutation—you take all of that sexual energy, and you focus it elsewhere.^{[2]
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- Transmutation is a principle that goes back to the magick principles of alchemy: the belief that you can convert metals and other materials into something new.^{[3]
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Transmuting Sexual Energy

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Meditate before masturbating or having sex to set your intention. Before you engage in sexual activity, visualize what you want out of the future.^{[4]
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- For example, you may set an intention to find peace in your work life, get out from under debt, or improve your relationship with a higher power.
- A lot of this is based on the laws of attraction—the belief that asking the universe for something while maintaining a positive mindset will get you what you want.
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Incorporate breathwork into your masturbation to amplify your consciousness. Mindful breathing can help you focus your energy or elevate your awareness while you pleasure yourself.^{[7]
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- This will put you more in tune with your subconscious energy and elevate your awareness of your body.
- You may feel a little awkward doing this at first, but just relax as much as you possibly can and take your time.
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Visualize your energy and desire while orgasming to manifest goals. What you picture in your mind’s eye in the moments leading up to and during your climax can hold incredible power.^{[9]
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- Manifestation is the act of bringing personal goals into reality by pouring your spiritual energy into what you desire. The moment of climax is filled with a monumental amount of energy, so visualizing what you want in this moment can dramatically influence your future.
- If you’ve never experienced an orgasm, that’s okay! Some people simply don’t orgasm at all.^{[11]
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Sexual energy is the most potent energy you have. It is the same life-giving energy that produces offspring with infinite possibilities. You can use it any way you want — it's up to you to decide. When you conserve and channel your sexual energy, it can be transformed to sharpen your mind, heal your body, and fuel your creativity.
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Redirect sexual energy via abstinence to become more creative. If you want to simply redirect your sexual energy, try taking a break from sex and masturbation entirely. Your sexual energy is powerful, and focusing it on activities other than sex can help you generate new ideas, be more productive, or uncover subconscious desires. Simply refrain from giving in to sexual urges and see how you feel!^{[12]
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- The idea here is that over time, you’ll naturally feel more creative and innovative just by abstaining from sex. By keeping your sexual energy bottled up, it will naturally flow to other parts of your life.
- Don’t force yourself to stay abstinent for an extended period of time if this doesn’t feel helpful or meaningful to you.
- Using abstinence to redirect sexual energy doesn’t mean that there’s anything intrinsically wrong with having sex or masturbating (there’s not). It’s just simply one method you may find productive.

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Improving Your Sexual Energy

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Get to know your body and identify your desires. Knowing what you want and being in tune with your truest carnal desires is essential when it comes to transmuting your energy.^{[13]
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- If you’ve never used sex toys, now is the perfect time to start! There are all kinds of different toys out there that can generate unique sensations and help you stumble on to new energies and wavelengths.
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Interrogate any hangups or anxiety you have around sex. The more comfortable you are with your sexuality, the easier it will be to transmute your sexual energy.^{[15]
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- Society puts a lot of messages out there—especially towards women—that can make you feel ashamed about your sexuality. Do not let that noise influence your energy.
- If you’ve experienced trauma in the past or you grew up in a super religious household and you’re struggling to reframe your perspective, talking to a therapist can dramatically improve the way you feel.
- Reader Poll: We asked 470 wikiHow readers and 61% of them agreed that talking to others helps them to manage their stress. [Take Poll] So, talking to a friend or counselor may help you to manage your stress around sex.
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Experiment with cutting porn out of your life. There’s nothing wrong with watching porn, but pornography does influence your sexual energy. Consider taking a break from the porn to see how that impacts your sexual energy. You may be surprised with how your energy and auras react to a little bit of a break.^{[17]
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- This is especially important if you’re using abstinence to redirect your sexual energy for more creative purposes.

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What blocks sexual energy?

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Misaligned chakras can block up your sexual energy. Any kind of unwelcome energy can throw off your chakras and mess with your sexual energy. Whether it’s a toxic relationship that’s draining your energy, or a traumatic experience keeping you from being present when you’re engaging in sexual activity, getting back in a positive, healthy headspace can unblock your sexual energy.^{[18]
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- Meditate, do yoga, and pray (if you’re religious) to revive your spiritual energy and get back in touch with your truest self.
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Maintaining a negative relationship with sex can block sexual energy. If you’re masturbating or having sex compulsively, you don’t appreciate or respect your body, or you use sex to numb uncomfortable feelings, you may be creating a barrier between you and a healthy sex life. Resolving any underlying issues you have with your relationship to sex can unblock the energy you’re trying to access.^{[19]
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- Excessive porn consumption can also block up your sexual energy.

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What is Tantric sex?

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It’s a form of sexual meditation where you explore with a partner. If you’re sexually active with a partner, ask them to try Tantric sex if you want to combine your sexual energies and redirect them together. Meditate together, try naked yoga, spend time staring at each other, and stimulate one another without focusing on orgasming.^{[20]
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- Tantric sex is all about getting to know your partner and letting your souls and emotional energies intertwine. Don’t fixate on the outcome—enjoy the journey!
- You might even experiment with having sex and intentionally stopping right before climax to harvest that sexual energy. This is known as edging, and it’s a popular way to maximize sexual energy.^{[21]
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How can sexual energy be used in a relationship?

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Sharing your sexual energy with your partner can help you create a deeper connection and more intense energy. To do this, spend time together in an open and vulnerable state before you actually have sex, like making eye contact or exploring each others' bodies.

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Yes, if you're feeling an unwelcome energy in your life, like you're around someone whose presence gives you a negative feeling or you're struggling with stress, it can block your sexual energy.

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A sexual meditation coach is a great way to get personalized insight into how to convert your sexual energy into mental power.

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What we call Tantric sex today is actually quite new. In ancient India, Tantra was actually a series of rituals practiced by Hindu and Buddhist priests, but it didn’t have anything to do with sex.

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