11 Things to Do When a Virgo Woman Stops Talking to You

Is a Virgo ignoring you or pulling away? Here’s what to do

Co-authored by Devin McSween Reviewed by Stina Garbis

Last Updated: December 8, 2025 Fact Checked

Virgos are typically great communicators, so you might wonder what to do if the Virgo woman in your life suddenly stops talking to you. Whether she doesn't want to meet up with you or she's not answering your texts, you're probably confused. We'll guide you through what to do if you've been ghosted by a Virgo so you can get her talking and mend your relationship. Read on for specific suggestions you can start using right away, with expert insights from astrologers!

What to Do When a Virgo Woman Goes Silent

If a Virgo woman goes silent and distances herself, it might mean that she’s angry or upset, or needs some space to work out her feelings. Stay calm and wait until she’s ready to talk. Ask her what’s wrong and take steps to make things right, whether that’s apologizing to her or changing your behavior.

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Remain calm and don’t get worked up.

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You might be upset that she's not communicating, but try to stay calm. A Virgo woman might not be answering your calls, responding to your texts, or agreeing to meet. Instead of getting increasingly frustrated, tell yourself to cool off. Blow off some steam and make time for yourself.^{[1]
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- It's not a good idea to have a thoughtful relationship discussion if you're angry. Instead, focus on your own well-being and try to relax.
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Give her time and space to think things through.

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If she doesn't want to talk, it's probably for a reason. A Virgo woman might go silent for several reasons. She may feel betrayed, angry, hurt, or confused and need to work through some things, or she might simply need some time for herself. Virgos can be notoriously private, so don't force a conversation until she's ready to talk, or she may push away even more.^{[2]
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- How can you tell if a Virgo woman is mad? Virgos often distance themselves and give the cold shoulder if they’re upset. They tend to be more passive-aggressive than confrontational, but they’ll make it clear they don’t want to talk.
- She might need a few days to sort out how she's feeling, or she might cut off communication for longer. Either way, she needs space to decide what she wants.
- She may not be upset with you at all, either! Virgos can be hard on themselves, so it may be that she's unhappy with herself. Astrologer Mechila Blake adds that Virgos can be prone to anxiety, too.^{[3]
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- Astrologer and spiritual coach Aliza Kelly notes that Virgos “take their role as a partner very seriously and they're always looking for ways to improve how they relate to their partner.” However, she says this “also means that they can get overly anxious or in their head or critical about the shortcomings of the relationship.”^{[4]
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Do other things while you wait for her to come around.

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It's easy to get caught up in worrying about why she's not talking to you. However, there's not much you can do while you're waiting for her. In the meantime, do things you enjoy and spend time with your favorite people. They'll help take your mind off of her and help improve your mood!^{[5]
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- When she's ready to talk, you hopefully won't be as stressed or anxious since you've been focusing on self-care.

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Have a conversation with her once she’s ready to talk.

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Don't pressure her to sit down and talk with you. Instead, let her know that you're available when she wants to talk. Let her lead the way with the conversation and resist the urge to ask her lots of questions all at once.^{[6]
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- For example, say or text her something like, "Hey, I'd really like to talk to you whenever you feel up to it." This shows her that you want to talk, but you're not pushing her.
- Virgos are logical, so don't be surprised if she doesn't immediately start talking about her feelings.
- Resist the urge to ignore her when she does reach out. Remember, you've given her time to think, and she probably wants to discuss what she's figured out, says astrologer Jessica Lanyadoo.^{[7]
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Ask her to tell you what's going on.

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You may have to do a little detective work here. She might bring up a situation or something you did, so you'll need to ask her follow-up questions to pinpoint why she's upset and what caused it. Then, just listen and accept how she's feeling, says Lanyadoo.^{[8]
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Expert Interview} Definitely don't argue or deny what she's feeling!^{[9]
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- For instance, she might say something like, "I always have to plan our dates." If you ask why that bothers her, she might reveal that she feels stressed with planning them or that she's concerned that you don't care about the relationship.
- Psychic astrologer Stina Garbis definitely suggests that you listen to your Virgo when they need to talk and let them complain, without stepping in.^{[10]
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- Virgos are meticulous and detail-oriented, so you might find that something that seems trivial might be really bothering her. Astrologer, astrocartographer, and business coach KJ Atlas notes that Virgos can be a bit uptight and rigid.^{[11]
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- To show your Virgo woman that you care, Garbis says it’s important to “pick up after yourself and be conscientious of cleanliness and hygiene.” She also recommends that you let her have their way from time to time.^{[12]
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Get to the root of the issue.

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Talk about what's bothering her and come to a resolution. While there are lots of reasons she might stop talking to you, it's vital that you discuss what the problem is so you can both work it out. Virgos love to analyze, notes Blake.^{[13]
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Expert Interview} So, if something's wrong, it's important to find a solution that makes sense for everyone.^{[14]
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- There might be a simple misunderstanding, or your Virgo might just need reassurance that you're committed to the relationship. Just because there's a problem doesn't mean you're the only one in the wrong!

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Work on things if you want to stay in the relationship.

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Give yourself time to consider your needs. After you've heard her explanation, spend some time deciding if you want to make the relationship work. You might decide that her reason for not talking to you wasn't acceptable, or you might realize that you do want to improve your relationship.^{[15]
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- Whatever you decide, it's important that you think about your relationship needs! If you don't think it's going to work out with her, then it's time for another honest conversation.
- Garbis notes that Virgos like honesty and availability.^{[16]
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  Expert Interview} So, it’s important to tell her how you feel and if you can continue to show up for her.

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Apologize if you’ve done something to upset her.

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Be very genuine and specific so she feels like you've heard her. She'll want to know that you won't hurt or upset her again, says Lanyadoo.^{[17]
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Expert Interview} Giving an apology allows both of you to move forward in your relationship.^{[18]
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- For example, say something like, "I'm sorry that I haven't made time for you lately. I need to do a better job of prioritizing our relationship."
- Keep in mind that a Virgo will remember when you've hurt her. If she forgives you, it's really important not to make the same mistake twice!

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Make the changes that your Virgo asked for.

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This might be a specific task you do or a change in the way you communicate. Kelly says Virgos “are very committed to trying to make things as functional in their relationship as possible.”^{[19]
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Expert Interview} For instance, maybe you need to work on your listening skills or talk together before you make plans. The point is to show her that you heard what upset her and are willing to improve things.
- Your Virgo will pay attention to the changes you make and really appreciate them!

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Communicate regularly to make her feel secure in the relationship.

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Check in with your Virgo about how things are going. Things might feel awkward for a little while after you've started talking again, but don't slip back into uncomfortable silence! Show her that your relationship is important by checking in frequently, says Lanyadoo.^{[20]
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Expert Interview} You might call her if you haven't seen her that day or send her texts just to say hi.
- She'll probably appreciate a text like, "You've been on my mind all afternoon. Want to get lunch tomorrow?"

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Show her your fun or romantic side.

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Smooth things over with your Virgo by creating new, positive memories together. Bonus points if you're romantic! She'll appreciate you putting in the effort. Plus, doing fun, sweet things together will remind her why you're together in the first place.^{[21]
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- You might make a candlelight dinner for her or surprise her with tickets to a show she's really wanted to see. Being thoughtful goes a long way with a Virgo.