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Think of it like this:
At 23, do you feel that you've had similar life experiences as a 32-year-old-man? Most 20-something women are still in college or just started their careers, have only had a handful of romantic partners, and may or may not be living on their own.
On the other hand, an early-30s man has likely already obtained his degree (if he pursued one), is well into his career, has likely had a few long-term or serious relationships, and has likely lived on his own for years.
When we frame it like this, it's easy to see the lifestyle and life stage differences.
But take a 50-year-old woman and a 60-year-old man for example. They're likely going to be at similar places in life: they've had kids, are probably empty nesters, close to retirement, etc. There's much less lifestyle, life stage, and maturity gaps between those two.
First, it would be best to answer these questions:
>Why are you truly seeking a romantic relationship? Has a specific guy caught your eye? Or are you just in love with the idea of being in love?
>What actions have you taken to build a relationship? Have you been building new connections with guys, or have you been too afraid to shoot your shot?
If you're not already doing those things, you first step is to start. But if you've been trying to connect with men and it isn't working out, try this instead:
>Rethink your approach. Men love compliments! The next time a handsome guy attracts your attention, tell him he looks nice.
>Put yourself out there in the real world. Dating apps aren't the best tool for finding lasting relationships. Check out community events, local concerts, and popular places in your area to meet other locals.
>Be approachable. That sounds difficult, but I promise it's not with a little practice! Use open body language (no crossed arms, try to keep a neutral face or smile, etc), and make eye contact with guys you'd like to talk to.
I really hope this helps, best of luck to you!
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