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Gen Z is always talking about maxxing something. There’s looksmaxxing, gymmaxxing, and now hagmaxxing. Hagmaxxing involves dating people older than you, but takes things to the extreme. In this article, we explain what hagmaxxing is, where it even comes from, why it’s so popular, and more. Read on to learn all about the practice (and why people do it in the first place).

What does hagmaxxing mean?

Hagmaxxing typically refers to when younger people (usually men) intentionally date older women. It can also refer to the practice of maximizing personal traits that are associated with old age, such as spending more time alone and taking up hobbies that are usually associated with older people.

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What is hagmaxxing?

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  1. Hagmaxxing is typically practiced by younger men, who limit their dating preferences to older women. The age gap tends to be fairly wide. While there aren’t any official numbers, the age gap tends to be at least 5 years or more, to the point where the difference in age is physically noticeable.​​[1]
  2. Leaning into your age, or hagmaxxing, in this sense, looks like practicing hobbies typically associated with older people, like crossword puzzles, staying indoors and watching game shows, or sitting on the porch. It may also involve taking pride in your aging looks rather than hiding them.[2]
    • Taking pride in your aging looks involves showing off your greying hair and keeping your wrinkles.
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Origin of Hagmaxxing

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  1. In September 2021, an anonymous 4Chan user posted on the /r9k/ forum saying, “I dont care about looking old. Im hagmaxxing.” After this, the term wouldn’t see a resurgence in popularity until 2024, when @kinematografi took to X (formerly Twitter) to talk about how you need to be hagmaxxing, living in the swamp, and obsessed with preserving the forest.[3]
    • The original post from @kinematografi has since been deleted, but it was reposted by other X users, helping spur the term’s popularity.
    • The trend of hagmaxxing, as it relates to dating older women, gained popularity from a fake news article posted to X.
  2. People have always dated outside their age, whether in ancient times or in modern day. Being attracted to older people has always been a thing, but hagmaxxing just gives it a name.
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Why is hagmaxxing so popular?

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  1. While the term originated in 4Chan and gained popularity through X (formerly Twitter), the trend of hagmaxxing as it relates to dating older women didn’t become popular until an image of a fake news article reading “Meet the hagmaxxers: Gen Z’s new social trend of dating older women” was shared across X through various account for engagement.[4]
    • Although the image was fake, the concept of hagmaxxing gained popularity online through memes and interactions in various internet communities.
    • “Maxxing,” which means practicing something to the extreme, is also extremely popular among members of Gen Z, making hagmaxxing popular by proxy.
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Why People Practice Hagmaxxing

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  1. Matchmaker April Davis says she sometimes sees guys going for older women because they’re looking for a sugar mama (someone who gives you money for romantically interacting with them).[5] Since older women tend to have more work experience and money than younger women, some guys are drawn to them.
    • For the older women, Davis says they prefer younger guys because “they’re helpful and they’re handy, they’re not afraid to make her dinner.” They make her feel special, which some older women value.[6]
    • While Davis cites men for these behaviors, hagmaxxing isn’t limited to gender, and these reasons go both ways.
  2. Hagmaxxing isn’t just done to secure a sugar mama or sugar daddy—sometimes, people just like being with older people. Whether that’s because of looks, a desire for maturity, or something else entirely depends on the person, but in this case, it all boils down to some sort of attraction.
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Is hagmaxxing problematic?

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  1. Since you’re technically calling the older people you’re trying to date hags, the term is problematic, as “hag” is often used to crudely refer to an old woman. The practice itself isn’t problematic, however, as long as you aren’t dating for the wrong reasons (like trying to use them for their money or fetishizing them).[7]
    • At the end of the day, preferring to date older people isn’t a problem, but referring to older people as “hags” can be considered offensive and ageist!

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This article was co-authored by April Davis and by wikiHow staff writer, Marcus Pruitt, BS. April Davis is a Matchmaker based in Minneapolis, Minnesota. She is the Founder and President of LUMA, a high-end executive matchmaking service designed for singles seeking a long-term committed relationship. April established LUMA in 2010 with the belief that everyone deserves to be in a healthy, loving, and long-lasting relationship. April employs a team of professional matchmakers with over two decades of experience, committed to finding their members the person they will spend the rest of their lives with. In addition to their matchmaking offerings, LUMA offers date coaching services. LUMA was featured on Inc. 5000’s list of Fastest Growing Companies, and April was featured for her work on Bravo's Hit Reality Show, Real Housewives of the OC. Through LUMA’s customized approach for members, dating coaching services, and cultivated connection-building, April has designed a business to help clients meet their perfect match. She received a Master’s Degree in Business Administration, Management and Operations and a BA in Accounting and Business/Management from The College of St. Scholastica. This article has been viewed 1,567 times.
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