Mean girl =🥺 what do I SAY?
so... at my school there is this kid who is in my drama class and one day she randomly said to me "nobody likes you" I don't understand why she would do this we are both new to each other (5 WEEKS) and she is kind of my friend, she has since then said it twice more 1 time under her breath, I heard her but I still asked "what did you say?" (NICELY!) what can I say to her to stop this?!?!
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Mean Girls, Gossip Girl—all fun until you are the target. Friends, we all want them. It is human nature that we all want to belong, to be part of a social group, and to be accepted. That goes back to the time of the caveman, when survival depended on the group. We were stronger as a group. Today, that is the same; we all want to be part of a “tribe” to have others notice us and encourage us, and at times carry our hopes and dreams.
What if that new friend isn't encouraging or inspiring, but is actually a "mean girl"? The most important thing you can do is protect yourself from that negative influence and behavior. Boundaries are important. If someone says mean things to you and makes you feel bad about who you are, that is not someone you should be around.
Option 1: tell that person how you feel. Yes, sharing or telling someone their behavior is not acceptable is hard and very scary in the moment. However, your mental health, your self-confidence, self-esteem, and the essence of you need to be protected from anyone who is not encouraging, supportive, and helping you become the best person you can be.
Option 2: to stop sitting by and engaging with that person. We do not have to, nor should we, subject ourselves to those who are trying to make us feel bad.
Option 3: involve an adult, a trusted teacher, a school counselor, someone you can share what is going on with and make you feel safe while also providing insight and guidance to the mean girl. Having an adult become involved allows the mean girl to have someone to talk to. Every one of us has unknown burdens, and often having someone to talk to will help the mean girl understand her burdens, help her to communicate better, and encourage her to be a better friend when she meets or makes other friends.
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What if that new friend isn't encouraging or inspiring, but is actually a "mean girl"? The most important thing you can do is protect yourself from that negative influence and behavior. Boundaries are important. If someone says mean things to you and makes you feel bad about who you are, that is not someone you should be around.
Option 1: tell that person how you feel. Yes, sharing or telling someone their behavior is not acceptable is hard and very scary in the moment. However, your mental health, your self-confidence, self-esteem, and the essence of you need to be protected from anyone who is not encouraging, supportive, and helping you become the best person you can be.
Option 2: to stop sitting by and engaging with that person. We do not have to, nor should we, subject ourselves to those who are trying to make us feel bad.
Option 3: involve an adult, a trusted teacher, a school counselor, someone you can share what is going on with and make you feel safe while also providing insight and guidance to the mean girl. Having an adult become involved allows the mean girl to have someone to talk to. Every one of us has unknown burdens, and often having someone to talk to will help the mean girl understand her burdens, help her to communicate better, and encourage her to be a better friend when she meets or makes other friends.
I would confront by asking in front of the whole class what the reason was for that comment and tell her it's really weird to isult random people and that she needs to find a new hobby.
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I would say "Can you please stop saying that." and if she doesn't stop you should tell the teacher
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i would suggest asking what she means by that and tell her you don't like her saying "nobody likes you."
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