Am I actually Non binary?
For a while now I've been going under the label of "Non binary" and going by they/them, but I'm not sure if that's who I really am. I've been having a lot body dysmorphia, so I'm worried that I may be wrong. Usually, I feel comfortable with my label, but sometimes I like doing more feminine things. Please give some feedback, especially if you have experienced something similar.
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Non-binary is a broad gender and category of genders, which is lovely. It describes any gender identity that is outside of the strict binary of man and woman, in whatever way. So some non-binary people do connect with manhood or womanhood in some capacity, whether it's at all times or fluctuating. For example. I'm genderfluid, so my gender identity shifts and changes over time; sometimes I feel more connected to womanhood, and sometimes I feel more connected to manhood–sometimes I feel connected to neither. So it's completely possible for non-binary people to feel connected to the binary in some capacity. A lot of non-binary people also feel completely separate from the binary, whether that is through xenogenders and having a gender that uses language that is completely different from how we ascribe language to gender in our society, or whether that is through being agender. There are so many ways to be non-binary.
In that thread, it can be challenging to figure out if you are non-binary, because it's not one strict yes or no thing that you can answer. However, my biggest piece of advice would be to think about how your mind and body feel in reaction to being placed within whatever strict societal gendered box you find yourself placed in. For example, I was placed in the box of being a woman, and I always felt constricted, embarrassed and strange within that. It always felt wrong to me, and I couldn't quite articulate why. Later on, I was able to discover language like "non-binary" and "genderfluid", which really helped me understand who I am further. So, I'd suggest noticing that discomfort, and see if that leads you anywhere. But it's also possible that you might not have discomfort or dysphoria whatsoever. You might feel completely comfortable with the language around you and how you feel, and you just might want to use the label non-binary (or any other label), and that's completely fine as well.
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In that thread, it can be challenging to figure out if you are non-binary, because it's not one strict yes or no thing that you can answer. However, my biggest piece of advice would be to think about how your mind and body feel in reaction to being placed within whatever strict societal gendered box you find yourself placed in. For example, I was placed in the box of being a woman, and I always felt constricted, embarrassed and strange within that. It always felt wrong to me, and I couldn't quite articulate why. Later on, I was able to discover language like "non-binary" and "genderfluid", which really helped me understand who I am further. So, I'd suggest noticing that discomfort, and see if that leads you anywhere. But it's also possible that you might not have discomfort or dysphoria whatsoever. You might feel completely comfortable with the language around you and how you feel, and you just might want to use the label non-binary (or any other label), and that's completely fine as well.
I classify myself as a genderfluid trans femme person, so I very much identify within that non-binary label. I identify that way, even though 90% of the time, I'm more femme-presenting. I've had surgeries and been on hormones, and most people would look at me like I'm a trans woman, but that's not who I am. I know I'm non-binary and that the "they" pronoun works, and I love that because it's who I am. It's not necessary that you fit within what other people think of what non-binary is, or that you have to be androgynous all the time. You can absolutely be femme-presenting and still be non-binary.
I always say that the correct way to transition is the way that's best for you. There are just so many different ways to do it, so just do what makes you happy and what makes you feel comfortable within your own skin, not to conform to what other people expect. That's why we come out in the first place.
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I always say that the correct way to transition is the way that's best for you. There are just so many different ways to do it, so just do what makes you happy and what makes you feel comfortable within your own skin, not to conform to what other people expect. That's why we come out in the first place.
Hi! I have been using they/them for a while now. I was born as, Scout. She/Her. I want to go by Charlie now, and I might be he/them??? I don't know. Plz help meeeeee🥲
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You can be feminine and nonbinary! (me lolz) as an afab fem nonbinary, I usually don't use binders and have light disphoria, but if ur feeling heavy disphoria and being nonbinary doesn't help ease it then maybe look into being trans! Or a trans nonbinary person! Eitherway, I hope you feel better :>
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Hello agender person speaking,
I used to be very similar to this because I am classified as agender/non-binary although I like to do more masculine things.
What I've found out is that some people classify somethings as being more masculine or feminine,
however doing more feminine things like maybe how you dress/walk/talk/paint nails/do hair, doesn't make you that specific gender. if you feel comfortable with that laybel then that's all that really matters.
Although you might wanna do research, I believe you should go with what your comfortable with.
trust your gut XD
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I used to be very similar to this because I am classified as agender/non-binary although I like to do more masculine things.
What I've found out is that some people classify somethings as being more masculine or feminine,
however doing more feminine things like maybe how you dress/walk/talk/paint nails/do hair, doesn't make you that specific gender. if you feel comfortable with that laybel then that's all that really matters.
Although you might wanna do research, I believe you should go with what your comfortable with.
trust your gut XD
If you are non binary just remember that if you want to wear a dress or a tuxedo or something like that, that clothes have no gender-- I'm a demigirl so I'm partially non binary and I wear whatever the heck I want. Just use whatever label you think best fits you best. :)
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Could be girlflux, where you feel more or less like a girl. Like genderfluid but your gender changes in intensity.
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I can try to help.I have experienced so much dysphoria over the past...like 6 years, and have gone by SO MANY labels (gender-fluid, non binary, ect.) But in my case, it was because I am trans. In your case, if you like doing girly things, the pronouns don't matter. You can do whatever you want with whatever pronouns you want. In my opinion, go with whatever pronouns make you comfortable and keep doing the stuff you love.
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Thank you. I also might be genderfluid now...??? IDKKKKKKKKKK I also got a girlfriend🙂 yay for meeeee
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